A reader asked: If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn’t…
SWM 092 – How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm
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SWM 091 – Explaining romance and foreplay, should both spouses enjoy sex, is my wife faking, nipple orgasms and more
Topics include: Is it okay to masturbate as a widow? Explaining romance and foreplay Is it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex? Is my wife really having an orgasm? Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?…
SWM 090 – Vaginismus, defensiveness about porn, sexual temptation in a low-frequency marriage, and pregnancy
Topics include: Husband who gets defensive about possible porn use Did I change my mind about anal sex? How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation? Is mutual masturbation okay if you’re separated due to work?…
SWM 089 – When she is more mom than wife, duty sex, oxytocin and bonding, and vasectomies
Topics include: Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex life Wife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectful Wife who engages in sex, but isn’t sexual Oxytocin and porn and masturbation Wife wants husband to get…
SWM 088 – My Vasectomy Experience
A reader asked: Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old…. any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research? Is there a certain “technique” we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?) dare I ask,…
SWM 087 – Low testosterone and Cialis, a wife who will not say what she likes, and what counts as sex
Topics Include: Low Drive / Low T Husband Wife won’t talk about sex Not attracted to my husband Wife against spicing up sex Is there a difference between having sex and making love?
SWM 086 – Sex with a well endowed husband
Today we’re going to answer a question about having sex with a well-endowed husband. This question came in a while ago, and since I hadn’t answered it before and I felt there was a lot of information to share, I…
SWM 085 – Wet dreams, whether sexual dreams are sinful, a widow’s desires, and is oral sex a sin
Topics Include: Wet Dreams Money and Marriage Handjobs and control Is my dead husband still with me? Are dreams sinful? How do I take control of my marriage? Sex once a year Is it wrong for a widow to have…
SWM 084 – Is a vasectomy a sin, what counts as premature ejaculation, rimming, and a near-sexless marriage
Topics include: Wife becoming less adventurous How long before porn memories fade? What counts as premature ejaculation? Is getting a vasectomy a sin? Husband isn’t acting like a believer Is it okay to talk about sex? Are we going too…
SWM 083 – What is “feeling naughty”?
Hi Jay, Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference…
SWM 082 – October 2021 Questions – Consensual adultery, caught masturbating, handjobs with condoms and more
Topics Include: Why do people think it’s okay to commit adultery if their spouse is okay with it? Caught son masturbating with his mom’s underwear – what do I do? Handjobs with condoms on? Guilt about bachelorette party Is crossdressing…