Definition: Refers to the beliefs and assumptions about sexual activities, frequency, roles, and behaviors one spouse might anticipate from the other within the bounds of the matrimonial relationship.
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but…
A couple of weeks ago, I started running a survey to answer the question of one of the people in my Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. Namely “How many men can’t orgasm from oral sex”. Well, I expanded it a bit…
I fully believe that married sex should be erotic, frequent, adventurous and a host of other things. However, sometimes there’s just not enough time for all of those things. Life can get busy and occasionally you just have to have…
Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal. More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong. This myth…
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d…
I received this question about a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: My husband is not saved, so his perception of sex is a lot different than mine. Now don’t get me wrong, after 12 years of…
My wife and I were talking about people’s responses to yesterday’s post. Our conversation let to what initiation was. We had just had sex, and I mentioned that I had initiated that encounter. Initially she disagreed saying “I came to…
Here’s yet another question through our Have A Question page. I’ll be honest, I’ve been hesitant to answer this one, but here we go anyways: My fiancé and I have sex every once in a while. Are their changes in…
I was talking with someone the other day who was struggling with the idea that sex can be fun and silly and a laughable situation. I may be mistaken, but it seemed she never realized that it’s okay to laugh…
Erotica is becoming mainstream. 50 Shades of Grey was a New York Times bestseller last year, and the movie is expecting to be one of the largest grossing movies to date. Christianity has largely been silent on the issue. Oh, don’t…
In marriage many arguments and hurt feelings are based on expectations. These expectations can come from a variety of sources and can present in a variety of forms. Expectations aren’t necessarily bad, but unspoken expectations are dangerous, particularly when you…