If you have a healthy marriage, then you’ll end up saying “I’m sorry” many times. The problem is that saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it. If you want to see extra growth in your marriage, you’re going to have to take…
I’m sorry isn’t good enough
Glossary Term: forgiveness
Definition: "Forgiveness refers to the voluntary process by which one partner absolves the other of a perceived offense, letting go of resentment and thoughts of retribution, thereby promoting healing, reconciliation, and growth in the marital relationship."
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