emotional health Archives - Uncovering Intimacy

SWM 060 – Aug 2020 Questions – Negative Self-Talk, Affairs, Manual Sex Troubles and more

Topics include:
Negative Self-Talk
Sex and Midnight Prayer
Is it okay to ask God for a spouse who enjoys anal sex?
How to deal with jealousy
Sex isn’t special after the wife had an affair
Did Jesus ever get married?
Is it wrong to have sex in the same room as another couple?
Is it okay to leave my wife because she can’t have sex?
Should anything go in the bedroom?
Trouble with manual sex
How to keep intimacy alive without sex

Do you control your emotions, or do they control you?

Emotions are a good thing. You know how I know? Because Jesus wept. God created us with emotions, and even a sinless Christ without a sinful nature experienced them. Not only that, but He experienced the full gamut of emotions, from joy to anger to

Why can’t I be happy with myself

Friday night, Jay challenged me to say “I’m happy with the progress I’ve made” out loud, to myself. Would you have a hard time saying that out loud? Even to yourself? I did. It was incredibly difficult. It took a conversation that lasted a couple

Don’t say yuck about food (Don’t say “I hate my body”)

Don't say yuck about food, or "I hate my body"

We have a rule in our house. You don’t say “yuck” about food. We created this rule for our children, because with five of them, invariably one of them isn’t interested in what we made for supper. You put the food down, and they push

Is sex your drug of choice?

I’ve had a bit of a rough month, personally. Nothing really changed, I just got really tired of the long commute, lack of sleep, high stress and lower pay of my new job, loss of autonomy, and on and on. It sort of dropped me

Why do I have to fix our marriage?

I think a lot of spouses have this question. Whether the relationship is lacking in quantity or quality of sex, communication skills, budgeting, or whatever. Typically there is one spouse that is more “high drive” in that area. They want to push this aspect of

Every pregnancy is different

I’ve been keeping a secret from you. It wasn’t intentional…it just hasn’t really come up. But we’re at about the half-way mark now, and if I don’t say anything…it’s going to start getting awkward I think. We’re having another baby boy! For those who aren’t

How to resolve conflict more effectively

A few posts ago, I wrote about How to Stop Fighting, and after thinking about, I decided I wanted to expand on that. I realized that the answer is simple: the talk more. But, that in itself isn’t a full answer, because some people don’t

How does A.D.H.D. affect a marriage?

My last post about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse discussed what ADHD was, the differences in the brain from neural-typicals, but I didn’t have the time to get into what behaviors one sees due to this difference, particularly those that impact a marriage. I you