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Anonymous Question: My wife wants to be gagged

Every so often, I get an anonymous question from a reader, and sometimes I write a post (like Should Christians mix alcohol and sex?) in response.  Sometimes I conduct a survey, then write a post in response (like Does my husband still find me attractive).

Book Review: The Passion Principles

The Passion Principles: Celebrating Sexual Freedom in Marriage by Shannon Ethridge (author of The Fantasy Fallacy: Exposing the Deeper Meaning Behind Sexual Thoughts) is all about sex within marriage (my favorite topic).  It is less a book, in the traditional sense, and more a collection of articles, almost

Is anal sex a sin?

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Last week I posted the survey results of our anal sex and anal play survey, and some of the responses and comments indicated that there were moral objections to anal intercourse.  As well, some people explicitly asked for a post discussing the biblical stance on anal sex,

Christians, Anal Sex and Anal Play

I’ve been getting questions about anal sex and Christian marriage almost since we launched the blog.  Every week, we get unfulfilled searches on our blog, emails from readers, and survey respondent comments asking about this topic.  I’ll be honest, I’ve shied away from it a

Which gender needs to change in marriage?

My wife (her comments in purple) and I host a small group in our house, and we’re currently studying Intimacy Ignited with 4 other Christian couples.  It’s been an interesting experience, talking so openly about sex in person with people who we know.  In fact, we

What can Christians do in the bedroom?

A common question among Christians is “What is allowed in the bedroom?” or “Are there any activities we’re not allowed to do during sex?”  This is a confusing topic, mostly, because we (the church) have made it confusing.  I think the Bible is pretty clear on

Book(let) Review: Creating True Agape

Cassie Celestain over at TrueAgape.com contacted me just over a week ago to ask if I could review her booklet.  As is my policy, I never turn down the opportunity to read a resource that might help marriages, and if I think it will help, I’ll write up

Why we need to improve our sex life

A common argument low-drive spouses have against high-drive spouses “Why do we NEED to improve our sex life?  Isn’t it good enough?”  And that’s a difficult question to answer for most, because it’s not a simple yes or no.  So, I thought I’d take a

What would you trade for a better sex life?

The secular, evolutionist, world likes to tells that marriage fulfills a societal need of resource distribution.  Women have what men want (sex), and men have what women want (resources and protection).  Now, this is a gross generalization of course, even if we disregard the quarter to