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Why we need to improve our sex life

A common argument low-drive spouses have against high-drive spouses “Why do we NEED to improve our sex life?  Isn’t it good enough?”  And that’s a difficult question to answer for most, because it’s not a simple yes or no.  So, I thought I’d take a

What would you trade for a better sex life?

The secular, evolutionist, world likes to tells that marriage fulfills a societal need of resource distribution.  Women have what men want (sex), and men have what women want (resources and protection).  Now, this is a gross generalization of course, even if we disregard the quarter to

Book Review: Sex Savvy

Sex Savvy is sort of a cross between a how-to book, a psychology/physiology lesson, a sermon on sexuality and a conversation between two friends.  I don’t know how else to describe it.  J Parker (the author and blogger at Hot, Holy & Humorous) came to

Scared of Initiating Sex

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I think a lot of spouses are scared of initiating sex and I think that fear exists on all sides: high drive, low drive, husband, wife, they may have different reasons for being scared, but I think many of us are scared of initiating sex

Birth Control Options for Christians

We’ve been talking about birth control for about the last month.  First we discussed non-procreative sex, then permanent birth control measures, and now we’re going to discuss birth control itself.  Birth control is a messy topic for Christians. We have to combine our beliefs on

Permanent Birth Control Survey Results

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A few weeks ago, I wrote a post on non-procreational sex, and still plan to write one on birth control (I did, it’s here), but I had a reader asking about permanent birth control, so, I thought I’d tackle this first with a survey.  He

Mutual Masturbation Survey Results

A few weeks ago, we wrote about mutual masturbation and tacked on a survey at the end.  I had meant to write a more substantial post today on another topic, but to be honest, my brain is exhausted, and I just can’t wrap my head around

Is Non-procreative sex OK for Christians?

I received this question on non-procreative sex through our “Have a Question?” page: Hello, I’m so happy to have found your site but I am confused on a very fundamental level. I understand that for my partner and I to have non-procreational sex outside of

Is Mutual Masturbation OK for Married Christians?

I’ve written about solo masturbation fairly extensively in previous posts, but I haven’t touched on the subject of shared, or mutual masturbation yet.  Two weeks ago, in my Going to Bed Naked Survey Results post, Chris Tian asked if I would write about this topic, because

Should Christians Mix Alcohol and Sex?

A couple of days ago, I was asked this question through our anonymous Have A Question? page.    This couple was considering adding alcohol to their bedroom activities, and asked what the pros and cons might be.  Now, I should disclose and say that I’m one