I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first. So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out…
Talking about sex survey
Marriage
How to survive a growth season in your marriage
If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting. Some are amazing and intense. Some are a bit dull. When you’re just slogging through life, and some are…
Sex is not icing on the cake, it’s the eggs in the cake
There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the…
I’ll never be good enough
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed…
SWM030 – Credentials, sex and sickness, falling out of love, self control and how to start leading
SWM 030
Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love,…
How do I open up to my spouse sexually?
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I…
External events can stop a sex session from going anywhere
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress.…
Your relationship has to be based on more than just sex
I was talking with Keelie from LoveHopeAdventure.com today and we got into a conversation about intimacy. In particular, about intimacy while dating. It ended up being a good discussion, and so I thought I’d share what I shared with her because…
How to have a conversation
Do you know how to have a conversation? Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t. I mean, we grow up talking to people every day, but still, there are many adults who never really progress beyond the conversational skill of a…
Being more skilled at rejection
A couple of posts ago, I wrote about being more skilled at initiating sex, but today we’re going to tackle rejection. I think sexual rejection might be one of the touchiest conflicts to handle in marriage. It’s hard to do…
Being more skilled at initiation
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of…