I wrote a few posts about apologizing lately and realized it didn’t yet write one about how to respond to an apology. So, how do you answer someone who said they’re sorry?
How to respond to an apology
Marriage
6 things that stop people from forgiving
The other day I wrote about how to apologize properly. The final step in the formula is to ask for forgiveness. That forgiveness should always be extended, however, if you find yourself unable to offer forgiveness, here are six reasons…
What do you do if you suspect your spouse of secretly masturbating?
This week I got an email from one of my regular readers. Here’s the basic backstory: I found your blog in spring of 2014 when I was 35 weeks pregnant with my third daughter and I couldn’t figure out why…
I’m sorry isn’t good enough
If you have a healthy marriage, then you’ll end up saying “I’m sorry” many times. The problem is that saying “I’m sorry” doesn’t cut it. If you want to see extra growth in your marriage, you’re going to have to take…
13 ways to be more present during sex
Yesterday I wrote against using fantasy while having sex. In it I promised that I’d write a post on how to be more mindful during sex. Here are thirteen ways that you can be more present during sex. I hope…
Is it okay to fantasize about your spouse?
Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us…
Fantasy has a different context than reality
Often people are confused about how their brain works. In this case, how it works in real life situations compared to when they are fantasizing. Using fantasy, whether it be erotic stories, porn, or just a daydream, they can get…
Should you have joint bank accounts as a couple?
My youngest sister recently got married. One of the questions she asked in the first few days was if they should have joint accounts at the bank. Decades ago it wouldn’t even have been a question. It was just…
How to stop looking at other women
There seems to be a big struggle, with men in particular, around looking at other women. I don’t just mean porn, but just walking down the street, in the store, or anywhere else. Of course, some women struggle with this…
Are you missing out in your spouse’s bids?
I don’t hear the word “bid” much anymore. I feel like I hear it a lot more when growing up. It seems to have fallen into disuse. Today I’m going to use it, because I don’t know a better word…
How to move past hurt
I often deal with spouses who have trouble forgiving their husband or wife for some hurt they caused. Sometimes it’s big, like an affair. Sometimes it’s not quite as monumental, like being late somewhere. Large or small issue, often spouses…