There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.” Or some variant of
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion
Today I’m answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven’t been.
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress. Last night I pointed out
I’m changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions.
I was talking with Keelie from LoveHopeAdventure.com today and we got into a conversation about intimacy. In particular, about intimacy while dating. It ended up being a good discussion, and so I thought I’d share what I shared with her because this affects not only couples
Do you know how to have a conversation? Surprisingly, a lot of people don’t. I mean, we grow up talking to people every day, but still, there are many adults who never really progress beyond the conversational skill of a 3-year-old. Sure, their vocabulary increases
A couple of posts ago, I wrote about being more skilled at initiating sex, but today we’re going to tackle rejection. I think sexual rejection might be one of the touchiest conflicts to handle in marriage. It’s hard to do correctly and too easily to
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of marriages would be a substantial
I think a lot of spouses don’t ask for what they want in bed. I think this is frustrating for both spouses because the spouse who doesn’t ask if often not getting what they want or need to make the sexual experience the best it can