The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about.…
SWM 153 – Sex as an Act of Worship
Glossary Term: sexual intimacy
Definition: It refers to the deeply personal, physical expression of love and affection between a married man and woman, encompassing both the act of intercourse and the emotional connection fostered through this shared experience.
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