I don’t hear the word “bid” much anymore. I feel like I hear it a lot more when growing up. It seems to have fallen into disuse. Today I’m going to use it, because I don’t know a better word to use. A bid is
I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex. I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much. So, I thought I’d take a second to try
Yesterday I wrote about arousal non-concordance and how sometimes our body’s arousal doesn’t match up with our mind’s arousal. How it can be that your mind might want sex, but your body isn’t ready. Or the opposite can happen. Unfortunately, this confuses a lot of women
I received this question last month through our anonymous Have A Question page: I feel like my wife is teasing me sexually. I more days that not, in fact I’d say 5 or 6 days a week she does things that arouse me. I don’t
I received this question a couple of weeks ago through our anonymous Have A Question page: I understand that this page is about sex in marriage and making it good. However, I have a question. Why does it seem that men see good sex as
I think a lot of spouses have a bad habit of talking bad about themselves. Women in particular are generally very well know for criticizing their appearance. Most men don’t do this as much. Men, if they verbalize this, tend to downplay their accomplishments and
Is sex work for you? What about your spouse? Do you know? Now, for me, the answer is a hands down “No”. I mean, I work hard during sex, and my muscles get tired, I get sweaty and I’m very focused … but I would
I get a lot of husbands and wives asking me how to change their spouse. How do you make them go from a refuser to a generous spouse? After all, I managed it, so what’s the trick? The truth is, I didn’t manage it. There
We’re going to try something a bit different today, we’re going to try a discussion question. Basically, I’m not going to write a post, I’m just going to ask a couple of questions and open the floor to comments below. Because sometimes I get questions
For a lot of us, fear is holding back our sex lives. I know we don’t like to admit it, but it is. We usually like to blame it on our busy schedules, on low energy, on a spouse who has a lower sex drive
Intimacy is risky. No, I don’t mean like having sex outdoors, I mean actual intimacy, even if it’s not physical. Because true intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability is … well, being vulnerable. And unfortunately, the more intimate we are, the more vulnerable we are, and