Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex. Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just sex that isn’t. So, I
Sex can often by a bit of a messy activity. Between bodily fluids and lube, there’s generally a lot of liquids to deal with after you’re done. And unfortunately, no one really talks about it, so you don’t really know what to expect, or how
A lot of spouses are not comfortable initiating sex. It might be that you have a fear of rejection, or that your upbringing makes you uncomfortable being sexual, or any other reason. In our Becoming more sexually engaged course, we challenge wives to start initiating
I think many of us struggle with the belief that we are lovable. We generally think that, as we are, we’re really not worthy of love. I think this feeling of a sense of worth is often compounded in Christians due an imbalance of teachings.
One of the biggest problems with relationships are covert contracts. Covert contracts are basically an agreement you have in your mind that if you do something, you’ll get something back in return. Typically you fool yourself into believing everyone understands the contract, but no one
Why do you initiate conversations in your marriage? Chances are they’re for the wrong reasons. I know mine were for years. Still are half the time to be honest. I’m not talking about the “Who is going to pick up the kids” conversations. This isn’t
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but it’s often not the same as
Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why: 1. It’s not fair fighting
If you haven’t heard yet, I’m planning to run a webinar in the near future. If you have a preference on the topic, you should fill out this form to vote. Currently, the topic people want to hear about most is how to have a
There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.” Or some variant of
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress. Last night I pointed out