Tag Archives: personal growth

Marriage and social shaming

My family and I are away for the weekend for my baby sister’s wedding.  Last night was the rehearsal and my other sister asked “So, is your speech ready?”  Well, this was the first I’d heard of a speech, so naturally I said it wasn’t.

When marriage is like a roller coaster

Sometimes marriage is like a rollercoaster.  This is especially the case during people when you are growing.  When dealing with big changes, like children, or trying to learn communication, dealing with porn or adultery, or when the marriage is unbalanced by only one spouse working

Is sex your drug of choice?

I’ve had a bit of a rough month, personally.  Nothing really changed, I just got really tired of the long commute, lack of sleep, high stress and lower pay of my new job, loss of autonomy, and on and on.  It sort of dropped me

Growth takes risk

Sometimes you need to be willing to risk what you have in order to get something better.  I’m not talking about leaving your spouse on the hopes of a better one, though that’s the message the world tries to peddle.  Rather, I’m talking about getting

Your marriage is your primary relationship

Is your marriage your primary relationship in life?  I mean, besides God.  I know, that sounds a bit glib, as if I’m tacking God on as an after thought, but I’m not.  I just want to focus on human relationships (and yes, I believe Jesus

Be Authentic about your Sexual Desire

I get a lot of emails from spouses.  I get to read about a lot of marriages in those emails.  I get to read about how spouses react, how they think, their struggles, their concerns, their hopes, their fears.  One of the big struggles I

I miss porn

Some days I miss porn.  Isn’t that sick?  It’s true though.  And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating.  And often the two are tied together, but they aren’t always.  There are

Book Review: Every Body Matters

As some of you may or may not remember, a couple of months ago, I started a study with a group of about 30 people for two reasons: To get stats on the relationship between fitness and sex To get together a like minded group of

SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person’s perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.

God is a healer, not a doctor

I often hear Christians claiming that God will fix their illness, or fix their marriage, or fix one aspect of their life, and I think too often we approach God as a doctor, not as a healer.  When we experience symptoms, we go to a