SWM020: 7 Dirty Fighting Techniques That Should Not Exist In Your Marriage

Mar 16, 2016 by Jay Dee in Podcast

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I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code. Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict. Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy. Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person’s perspective, to seek unselfish solutions. But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging. Today I’m going to share with you 7 damaging conflict behaviours that you might recognize in your marriage. If any of these ring a bell, you need to start working to rid yourself of them in your relationship.

Kitchen-sinking
Self-summarizing
Presumptive attributions
Cross-complaining
Closed-questioning
Prescriptioning
Hit-and-running

Want to really make this stick? Download this family contract and make everyone sign it. Then stick it on your fridge. If you have kids, watch how quickly you change your communication behaviours when they’re correcting you.