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SWM 150 – Control, sex and marriage

Last month, I watched a great video by Gary Thomas and his wife Lisa on how a controlling spirit can harm a marriage. It got me thinking: In Christian circles, we often struggle to define the difference between healthy leadership and damaging control—both in marriage and in our relationship with God.

Why is it that surrendering to God is seen as good, but demanding control from a spouse is harmful? The key, I believe, is consent and love. When surrender is freely given and motivated by love, it can bring freedom and joy. But when control is forced, it leads to resentment and broken trust.

In this post, I’m sharing some personal stories and lessons we’ve learned about navigating these tricky dynamics in marriage.

SWM036 – Sexy Memory Foreplay Game

Did you ever play the game “memory” or “concentration” as a child or maybe with your children? Or maybe you new it by another name. You put cards or tiles face down on the table and took turns turning them over, trying to find matches.For this Valentine’s Day we decided to make an adult version of this game to play with your spouse that can also be used as foreplay.

Is it okay to engage in pegging in marriage

Is it okay to engage in pegging in a marriage?

Are you a Christian who is curious about pegging? Or perhaps your spouse brought it up. In this post, we tackle the moral questions as well as trying to understand why someone might want to do this.

Review: Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System

Every month, more than 1000 people come to this blog looking for information on how to introduce bondage into their marital bed or asking why it is that their spouse wants to be tied up. Some of that is due to the 50 Shades of

Is it alright to ejaculate on my wife?

I received this anonymous question last night through our Have A Question page. I have more than have been there longer, and I intend to answer them, but today I don’t have much time, so I picked it because I thought it would be short. Plus,

Is it okay to role-play a rape scenario?

I’m playing catch up on some previous questions. This one came in more than a month ago, and I’m afraid I’ve been a little slow to answer: My wife and I are both Christian Faith and have a question about a fantasy we both have.

Adult Nursing Relationships

I’ve been putting off this post for a long time, but after writing about why men are breast obsessed, it seemed an opportune time to bring it up. So, today we’re going to talk about Adult Nursing Relationships, also known as ANRs, and more specifically,

Should Christians have sex while fasting?

Should Christians have sex during Lent?

Since it’s Lent right now, I thought it would be appropriate to answer this question in a blog post, as I’m sure some others are wondering the same thing. Likewise, there are probably a bunch of Christians who don’t know what lent is or why anyone would give sex up for it. So, I’ll address it, assuming you’ve never heard of Lent.

Clitoral Slapping

Alright, here’s a technique for those who are a bit more adventurous in the bedroom. Just as a warning to the husbands: DO NOT TRY THIS WITHOUT DISCUSSING IT WITH YOUR WIFE FIRST. I’ll admit, I was a bit hesitant to bring it up with

What can Christians do in the bedroom?

A common question among Christians is “What is allowed in the bedroom?” or “Are there any activities we’re not allowed to do during sex?” This is a confusing topic, mostly, because we (the church) have made it confusing. I think the Bible is pretty clear on

Why do some wives like their hair pulled?

This is a question that confuses some husbands, and some wives as well, including those who like their hair pulled. They wonder why they like it. They didn’t like it growing up when their siblings pulled their hair, and in any other circumstance it’s not