Definition: "Communication" refers to the act of sharing, interpreting, and understanding verbal and non-verbal messages, thoughts, and feelings between spouses to foster a stronger, healthier, and more intimate marital relationship.
Update, August 2026 The numbers in this post come from our 2013 oral sex survey. In 2026 we re-ran the question as part of a much bigger survey, 1,058 complete responses, and the finding held: a large share of wives…
In this week’s challenge, I mentioned active listening as a skill that people should be using, but hadn’t had a post up yet about it. So, today I’m going to rectify that. Active listening, which I’ve also heard called Listening…
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A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her. She hadn’t asked him. She had no indication that he wasn’t, but she…
In yesterday’s post, I mentioned the 5 levels of communication, and suddenly realized I had not yet written a post about them. So, that’s what I’m going to do today. The 5 levels of communication are not something I can…
Here’s a question I received a couple of weeks ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I’m interested in adding toys to our intimate repertoire. However, one of the issues which keeps me reluctant to do so is the…
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I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our…
As many of my readers know, I recently took a new job. The work is fantastic. The pay is more than adequate. I’m respected, and I feel, and am told, that I’m a real asset to the company. Not only…
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I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code. Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict. Now, conflict isn’t bad, in fact,…
The topic of sex within marriage within the Christian community is an oddity. The reactions to bringing up the topic are quite varied: embarrassment, shame, fear, anger, interest, inquisitiveness, looking for help, looking to share a burden, wanting to know…
I received this question a couple of days ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I love giving my husband oral, but I find his semen to be very bitter. It’s actually very difficult to not gag at the…
I received this question yesterday morning from our anonymous Have A Question page: Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasim next to hubby after he has fallen asleep after sex? He does…