Definition: Arousal refers to the physiological and psychological state of heightened sensory sensitivity and intensified interest that typically precedes sexual engagement.
Hi Jay, Just a general question, what is the feeling of “feeling naughty”? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply “different” as “naughty” as maybe we don’t have another reference…
Here’s a question I know quite a few people struggle with. I know I have in the past. To be honest, the idea is still a bit tempting even though we don’t drink anymore. I often like to get my…
You know what I love about being a Christian marriage educator? Helping people by answering questions they don’t feel they can ask anywhere else. Giving them a safe place to ask it and doing my best to make them feel…
Stress has a huge impact on our sex lives. It changes everything from the initial desire to have sex, through to arousal and ultimately the ability to orgasm. For most people, sex negatively impacts all these things. So, one of…
I get a lot of husbands asking me the question “Why doesn’t my wife get wet?” I similarly get questions from wives asking why their husband doesn’t believe them when they say they’re enjoying themselves during sex despite not being…
There are a lot of Christians dealing with same-sex attraction. I think most of them don’t really know how to handle it. It’s no wonder they don’t either. We send a lot of confusing messages around in the Christian community…
Something that’s often hard for those of us who are interested in sex more often to understand why our spouses don’t want sex as often. While working through my questions backlog, I saw this one, and wanted to answer it:…
Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us…
Often people are confused about how their reactions to things change when their aroused vs not aroused. Here’s an example from our anonymous questions page: My wife loves anal stimulation with a finger or two during oral. But when I…
Stress isn’t a bad thing. It’s not. It is designed for a purpose: to give us the best survival chance in a dangerous situation. Evolutionists would say this is a holdover from evolutionary ancestors. I believe that God created humans…
My wife and I were talking about people’s responses to yesterday’s post. Our conversation let to what initiation was. We had just had sex, and I mentioned that I had initiated that encounter. Initially she disagreed saying “I came to…