Category Archives: Sex


Men and orgasms vs ejaculation

Two days ago, I received this question from our Have A Question page: Hi Jay Dee, my question is how to tell if my hubby has had an orgasm is it the same as him ejaculating and if not what is the difference?  Thank you

Why do I cry after sex?

Right after my post on why some women find their legs shake after orgasm, I received this question: I am a 50 year old women. This year I have started crying after having an orgasm. Nothing is wrong at all it’s like a physical response.

Why do some women shake when they orgasm?

Why do some women shake when they orgasm?

I had asked on Facebook if anyone had any questions about sex and/or marriage since I hadn’t gotten an anonymous question in a couple of weeks. Then one of my regular readers and participator sent me this question (among others): Why the shakes and spasms

What have we done to women’s sex drives?

Those of you who read my blog posts, or have heard me speak, might have heard me drop my belief that the Bible was written with the assumption that women had the higher sex drive, or at least were evenly matched. Now, in our culture, this

Is your marriage an oasis?

This post is mostly me thinking aloud.  I’m exploring a thought, something I’ve noticed in my own marriage and others.  Many marriage experts, counselors, therapists, etc. will tell you that people need time to decompress between work and home life.  They need time to shift

What can you do with a sexually unadventurous spouse?

Here’s another question I received from our Have A Question page: My wife isn’t very adventurous. What can I do to respect her wishes to be less adventurous? What can I do to help her become more adventurous? It’s really two questions, isn’t it, but

Overcoming guilt from an affair

This week I received a question, as I often do, through our Have A Question page.  However, this time the one asking asked not to share the whole question as she didn’t want anyone to guess the identities of the people in question.  So, I’m

Can you have oral sex after intercourse?

I received this question a few days ago through our Have A Question page: I like going down on my wife after we finish having sex. Is there any issues with this? Now, there’s a very short, simple answer to this: No.  There are no issues.