Category Archives: Keeping Sex Fun

Is it okay to fantasize about your spouse?

Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental.  In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us having sex in public, I

Do men like having their balls played with?

Sorry if the title’s a bit crude.  Couldn’t find anything that fit better.  I’ve received a bunch of questions over the years about testicles.  Here’s the most recent one: Do most men like having their balls played with? My husband and I are recently married

Orgasm does not equal pleasure

Yesterday I was writing about some orgasm facts. And my last one. Which I wanted to split into a separate post, is that orgasm does not equal pleasure. Unfortunately our media keeps telling us differently.  Cosmo covers are full of orgasm tips, positions for better

Simultaneous orgasms are rare

Our culture has propagated, for quite some time, the myth that simultaneous orgasms are ideal.  More than that, the myth has been pushed to such an extent that many believe that if orgasms aren’t simultaneous, then something is wrong.  This myth has been around for quite some

Relief is not the same as enjoyment

I think sometimes we confuse relief with enjoyment, especially when it comes to sex.  I think this gets confused by both high-drive and low-drive spouses, and I don’t think we tend to reflect on that much.  So, I thought I’d take a second to try

Can’t keep his penis in while trying other positions

I received this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page I really don’t think you have tacked this before as I have looked, but my question is about different sex positions. My husband and I have been married for 10 years and the

Is sex work?

Is sex work for you?  What about your spouse?  Do you know?  Now, for me, the answer is a hands down “No”.  I mean, I work hard during sex, and my muscles get tired, I get sweaty and I’m very focused … but I would

Do men like nipple play?

Well, it’s the end of another week, and so there’s just enough time for one more question.  I received this one yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page: My question is about nipple play. I am a 70+ male, a new reader and subscriber

Is it wrong to push my spouse to be more creative in bed?

About a week a go I got this question from our anonymous Have A Question page: Am I wrong in pushing my wife to be more creative in our physical relationship? My wife was raised VERY conservative and believes that’s my department. She’s open to