Category Archives: Reader’s Questions


SWM 055 – Anonymous Questions from March 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Topics include:
Is fingering fornication?
Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang?
How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks?
Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex
Wife doesn’t want to dress up for me

SWM 054 – Anonymous Questions – February 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from February 2020.

Topics include:
How can I become more comfortable masturbating?
Why wouldn’t he use lube?
How to have “team sex” (not what you think)
Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me
Meta discussion about piercings
How do I start to fix my marriage?
Becoming more sexually engaged

What happens when you die?

Question from a reader:
So, I was listening to one of your podcasts, I don’t remember which one but you were talking about souls and what happens after death. You said that nothing happens after death until Jesus comes back. But I want to know what you think about the story Jesus tells in Luke 6:19-31, it’s the story of the rich man and the beggar. After the beggar Lazarus dies, he was carried away in Abraham’s bosom. According to this story, when you die, your soul goes paradise (I believe).

SWM 053 – Anonymous Questions – December 2019 & January 2020

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020

Topics Include:
Gang bang fantasy
How to make sex not feel like an obligation
How to get past sebacks during foreplay
Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm
A warning about “Boundaries” and how to mitigate the damage it can cause
Long term effects of using a vibrator

SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?

Are Dominance_Submission Games in the bedroom OK_

A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?

SWM 051 – Anonymous Questions – October & November 2019 – Types of orgasms, sleeping during sex & more

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Answering reader’s questions about:
Other types of orgasms
How to deal with a transgendered friend?
Is crossdressing for comfort wrong?
How to deal with an unrepentant husband?
Orgasmless sex (on purpose)
Wife sleeping during sex
Husband won’t come to bed at a decent time
What if you medically can’t have sex?
How do you switch from being single and chaste to married and sexual?

SWM 050 – Anonymous Questions from September 2019 – Deployed Spouses, Passive Sex Partners, Sleep Apnea and How to Boost Attraction for your Spouse

Anonymous Questions from our readers

In this episode, we’re tackling the subjects:

  • How do you deal with deployment and sex drives
  • How do we improve sexual intimacy
  • How to improve our sex life
  • Satisfaction and adventurousness
  • How do you get your wife to be more dominant in bed
  • Asking doesn’t work, not asking doesn’t work
  • Husband has sleep apnea
  • What should teenagers do instead of masturbate?

SWM 045 – Anonymous Questions from May and June 2019

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Today we’re tackling such questions as:
How important is communication during sex?
Is it wrong to not want your wife to lose weight?
Someone asks if they should have an affair
How do you find time to have sex when you have young children?
Does premature ejaculation affect your sex drive?
What do you do if your husband won’t quit masturbating alone?
Is it still considered crossdressing if it’s for comfort?
A question about male chastity or female-led relationships.
Should you suggest a boob job to your wife?
A question about language in the bedroom.

Is it wrong for Christians to be Circumcised?

A few weeks ago, I received a question through our Have a Question page. Normally I would just answer them in our monthly questions round up, like this one, but this question had so much history to go through and it’s so polarizing in Christian

SWM 044 – Anonymous Questions from February and March 2019

Anonymous Questions from our readers

Answering questions from our readers. Questions include:

Is doggy style demeaning?
Does anal sex always cause bleeding?
How to start talking about sex with a sensitive wife?
Can you have sex with an unsaved spouse?
How to handle a wife orgasming too quickly
Mutual Masturbation
Swallowing your own semen
Can you be married to the wrong person?
Is sexlessness being unfaithful?
Ethical porn