My spouse is in a unique position to hurt me more deeply and more often than anyone else, simply by being in an intimate (not just physically) relationship with me. She knows how to push my buttons better and harder…
There are differing views within Christianity regarding divorce. Some don’t really see a problem with it at all, that if you are unhappy, you should leave. Others believe the very word should be stricken from our vocabulary. They believe that…
“Should” is a dangerous word that gets used far too often. Now, I’m sure there are some appropriate times where it can be used, but often we don’t use it appropriately. Often we use “should” where it’s actually harmful to…
Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting. I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never…
I’m always going to be in favor of communication, but there are times when you need to stop talking and just start actually doing something, even in marriage where communication is a vital skill. Today we’re going to look at…
A little while ago, I wrote a post on how to have a conversation, because, well, we don’t get taught that in school, or growing up any longer. At least, not if most people’s behaviour is any indication. Today I…
Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex. Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just…
Why do you initiate conversations in your marriage? Chances are they’re for the wrong reasons. I know mine were for years. Still are half the time to be honest. I’m not talking about the “Who is going to pick up…
Probably the number one piece of advice I hand out to people is “talk to your spouse about it”. It’s amazing how often that simple answer makes huge changes in marriage. But, I wanted to know how much of a…
Most couples face a conflict in terms of mismatched sex drives. The majority in fact, my marriage included. This leads some people to believe that their sex drive, or the sex drive of their spouse, is the issue. But it’s…
Do you ever feel like you just keep having the same argument, discussion or conflict over and over again? Perhaps it comes up every week, every month, or every year. It might just be something small and seemingly insignificant, or…