Definition: 'Respect' is the recognition and value of the emotional, physical, and personal boundaries, rights, and dignity of your spouse, grounded in love, understanding, and the mutual consent that forms a foundation for healthy and functional relationships.
If you’ve spent any time on this site, you might start to wonder if anyone actually has a good sex life. Problem after problem. Struggle after struggle. Mismatched drives, painful sex, dead bedrooms, porn addiction, resentment. It’s enough to make…
Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on his substack on the topic of discipline vs. punishment—not taking a stance but rather offering it up as a controversial conversation starter. Reading it made me curious about something—does your view of…
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Topics Include: Wife thinks she has to be mean to our children Golden showers (again) Wife can’t decide if she loves me or not Just because you’re experienced, doesn’t mean you’re qualified
A reader asks: I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read…
Most, if not all of you, have been in a conversation where you or your spouse start a sentence with either “You never … ” or You always …”. These absolute accusations should never be used in conflict and here’s why:…
I received this question about a week ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: My husband is not saved, so his perception of sex is a lot different than mine. Now don’t get me wrong, after 12 years of…
I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page back in May: What advice would you have for someone who enjoys oral sex but their spouse’s religious beliefs (as some do) teach that oral sex is sinful? That’s…
I received this anonymous question last night through our Have A Question page. I have more than have been there longer, and I intend to answer them, but today I don’t have much time, so I picked it because I thought…
I’ve been avoiding this topic for quite some time. 4+ years of blogging about sex, and I’ve barely mentioned the issue of homosexuality. Why have I been avoiding it? Well, to be honest, I wanted to flesh out my own…
It’s been a while since I’ve done a book review, and I’ve been waiting a long time to do this one, and entire year almost. Last October (2014), I was approached by one of the authors (Erin) asked if I…
This discussion comes up a lot when talking about sex. It’s usually framed around the concept of rights and duties. But marriage isn’t about rights and duties, it’s about love, respect, and service. One of our readers asked for a post on this…