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Does Masturbation Help or Hurt Your Marriage? Here’s What the Data Says

Illustration of a married couple holding hands while looking at two charts comparing solo behavior decreasing and shared intimacy increasing, with the headline “Does Masturbation Help or Hurt Your Marriage? Here’s What the Data Says.”

Nearly a year ago someone suggested I redo my 2014 survey on mutual masturbation. I did, and I expanded it considerably. What I got back from 1,043 married Christians was more interesting than I expected. Some of it confirmed what I thought going in. Some of it didn’t. And one pattern in particular showed up so consistently across so many different cuts of the data that I had a hard time writing around it.
That pattern is what this post is about.

SWM 142 – AQ – September 2024 – Exhibitionism, no sex in 4 months, rough sex and more

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics include:
Exhibitionism
No sex in 4 months
Should I disclose previous porn struggles to fiancee
Other resources
What qualifies as mutual masturbation
Need rougher sex to orgasm

SWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs

Topics include:
The monthly masturbation challenge
How do I make anal sex enjoyable for her?
Periods and vacations and sex
Aging and orgasm struggles
How do I know if I’m in right?
Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared experience?
Condoms for handjobs
Resources for newlywed virgins

How does sexual assault impact marriage – and can we protect our kids from it?

I found a way to protect kids from sexual assault – reducing their risk by 56%. Want to know what it is? Anyone can do it.

How does pre-marital sex impact married sex lives – Survey Results

A bit ago, I ran a survey to answer the question – does having sex before marriage impact sex within the marriage? Because, let’s face it, many people got fed the line that “if you wait until marriage, God is going to give you an

SWM 113 – Orgasms and age, calling your spouse daddy, guilt from initiating

Topics Include:
A husband’s changing orgasms
Can widowers masturbate
Husband won’t stop masturbation habit
Calling husband “daddy”
Feeling guilty about initiating sex

SWM 110 – Noticing other women, forgotten anniversary, disconnecting during foreplay and more

Topics include:
My wife feels disrespected because I notice other women
Wife is hurt but not healing after years
Wife disconnects during foreplay
What can we do during fertile days
Oral sex questions
Husband doesn’t know our anniversary date
Should I be worried if I’m late?
In-laws over-share about sex
Fantasies for couples
Low-drive husband
Period sex

SWM 098 – Energy, mutual masturbation, orgasm struggles, desire type quiz and meeting other couples

Topics include:
Where does the energy come from?
Mutual masturbation
Sharing fantasies and machines
Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming
Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz
Why do married men masturbate?
How do you meet other people?
Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?

SWM 091 – Explaining romance and foreplay, should both spouses enjoy sex, is my wife faking, nipple orgasms and more

Topics include:
Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?
Explaining romance and foreplay
Is it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?
Is my wife really having an orgasm?
Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?
Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sex
Is mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?
Nipple orgasms

SWM 090 – March 2022 Anonymous Questions

Topics include:
Husband who gets defensive about possible porn use
Did I change my mind about anal sex?
How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?
Is mutual masturbation okay if you’re separated due to work?
Haven’t been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismus
Friend can’t have sex with his wife because of prior porn use
Is a panty fetish a problem?
Wife hates being pregnant and being a mother

SWM 084 – November 2021 Anonymous Questions – Last post of the year

Topics include:
Wife becoming less adventurous
How long before porn memories fade?
What counts as premature ejaculation?
Is getting a vasectomy a sin?
Husband isn’t acting like a believer
Is it okay to talk about sex?
Are we going too far?
Sex frequency has gone down
Crossdressing men
Rimming
Sex once or twice per year since kids were born
Conflict over anal play
CBD Lube
Spanking
Masturbation for medical reasons
Is masturbation okay if your spouse can’t participate?
Will masturbation keep me out of heaven?

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