Definition: Erectile dysfunction is the persistent inability to achieve or maintain an erection sufficient for satisfactory sexual performance, often due to a variety of physical or psychological factors.
I feel like I have some explaining to do. A couple of weeks ago, I shared that lately, Christina and I have started having sex a lot more than usual. We had more sexual encounters last month than there were days in the month. We’re at about 30 for this month already.
This has led to some questions by some people.
Topics include:
Can I use a strap-on on my wife?
My husband’s ex-girlfriend
What’s a foreskin for?
Answering the question:
Hi Jay, I’ve noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what’s considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there’s a lot of pressure to perform sexually. This means being able to become sexually aroused when seeing a naked woman (my wife in this case), being able to maintain the erection and having the sexual stamina to keep from climaxing for a sustained interval (not sure what the average woman considers desirable stamina but let’s say 10 minutes?) Not to mention the societal pressure that men face when it comes to the size of their penis. I myself feel insecure about not having a large enough penis. Who doesn’t want to add a couple of inches to their penis? I’ve become somewhat perplexed/frustrated because I feel like there are very few expectations placed on females. We live in an age when “all women are supposed to be seen as beautiful.” It seems that females are simply expected to be willing to participate in sex when the mood is right, and that’s it. There’s no expectation on the size or quality of female genitals, no expectation on their ability to get aroused or maintain arousal, and no expectations on the level of physical or mental effort they invest in sexual activity. It seems they are just supposed to be the recipient while the man does the thrusting. Even when it comes to the subject of natural lubrication, there’s a stigma around a man who can’t naturally achieve and maintain an erection, but for the woman, there doesn’t appear to be a stigma around the inability to produce sufficient arousal fluid (vaginal wetness). As it pertains to the topic of pornography, I’ve read many articles about the dangers of pornography for men, how it leads to sexual desensitization, and when paired with masturbation, decreased sexual stamina and even erectile dysfunction. I can’t say I’ve read many articles discussing how viewing pornography is detrimental for women. Is it just me, or is there a double standard when it comes to sexual expectations for men and women?
Topics include:
Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?
Explaining romance and foreplay
Is it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?
Is my wife really having an orgasm?
Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?
Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sex
Is mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?
Nipple orgasms
Topics include:
Legs shaking during oral sex
Wife changed after separation
Feeling drained after oral sex
Birth control
Cock worship
Go see a doctor if you are worried about your health
Answering questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.
Topics include:
Wife keeps falling asleep during sex
Is it possible for women to orgasm without cumming?
Wife wants bigger toys
How do I handle my wife screaming at me?
Clone-a-willy
Blowjobs make me nauseous
Do men who take ED meds tell their wives?
Why should single people abstain from sex?
Insecurity about penis size
Why do I look at men’s crotches?
Husband is constantly sexual
Is prostate stimulation wrong?
This is the third and final part of our January anonymous questions Have A Question page.
If you heard the previous two parts of these questions, I was trying to sort the questions by topic. Today we’re tackling some questions about sex drive, and then a bunch that didn’t fit into any nice categories.
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