This is another topic I’ve been avoiding for a while. I mean, people get upset enough when I mention anal sex. But to talk about kissing or licking the anus … well, I’m bracing myself for the comments. But, no…
Analingus / rimming / oral-anal sex
Activities
Can’t keep his penis in while trying other positions
I received this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page I really don’t think you have tacked this before as I have looked, but my question is about different sex positions. My husband and I have been married…
Is sex work?
Is sex work for you? What about your spouse? Do you know? Now, for me, the answer is a hands down “No”. I mean, I work hard during sex, and my muscles get tired, I get sweaty and I’m very…
Do men like nipple play?
Well, it’s the end of another week, and so there’s just enough time for one more question. I received this one yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page: My question is about nipple play. I am a 70+ male,…
Is it wrong to push my spouse to be more creative in bed?
About a week a go I got this question from our anonymous Have A Question page: Am I wrong in pushing my wife to be more creative in our physical relationship? My wife was raised VERY conservative and believes that’s…
What if your spouse thinks a specific sex act is immoral?
I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page back in May: What advice would you have for someone who enjoys oral sex but their spouse’s religious beliefs (as some do) teach that oral sex is sinful? That’s…
Book Review: Do It Better – Twelve Sexual Routines and Principles You Wish You Knew
Back in February, I got a message from Sarah and Jeff Harris (actually the email was from Jeff) telling me they loved my blog (yay!), and that they had written a book “Do It Better – Twelve Sexual Routines and Principles…
How many husbands actually like giving oral sex?
Last week, I posted an anonymous question where someone asked how many wives actually like giving oral sex. In the comments, people wanted to know how many husbands actually like giving oral sex. So, I guess this isn’t technically considered…
How many wives actually like giving oral sex?
Update, August 2026 The numbers in this post come from our 2013 oral sex survey. In 2026 we re-ran the question as part of a much bigger survey, 1,058 complete responses, and the finding held: a large share of wives…
Where do I hide our sex toys?
Here’s a question I received a couple of weeks ago from our anonymous Have A Question page: I’m interested in adding toys to our intimate repertoire. However, one of the issues which keeps me reluctant to do so is the…
SWM021: Spice Jar
SWM 021
I didn’t have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our…