Honor Bondage

Jay Dee

Honor Bondage

May 20, 2015

I’ve been getting a lot of requests for information on bondage play.  Sadly, this is probably in partially due to the whole 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, but there are some couples who are genuinely interested, without that influence. So, I thought I would write

HonorBondageI’ve been getting a lot of requests for information on bondage play.  Sadly, this is probably in partially due to the whole 50 Shades of Grey phenomenon, but there are some couples who are genuinely interested, without that influence.

So, I thought I would write a (very) quick post as a sort of simple way for spouses to start off with bondage.  Sort of bondage without bondage, if you will.

Honor bondage is a term given to play in which both spouses act as if one spouse is bound.  There are a couple of ways to do this.  For the purposes of this post, the dominant spouse will be doing the “binding”, and the submissive spouse will be being “bound”.

The first is more of an acting / make-belief scenario.  In short, you both agree to behave as if one spouse is bound.  The dominant spouse might even mime tying them up to add to the feel of it.  Then, though out your “play”, you need to act in accordance with this game.  The submissive spouse should act as if their arms/hands/legs/whatever are bound in the manner described or acted out.  Likewise the dominant spouse should not be moving the submissive spouse about in such a way that would violate the game (by moving an arm that was tied for example).  It’s a simple game, but think of it as bondage-extra-light.

The second is similar, but a slightly different slant.  The submissive carries out a restrictive order given by the dominant spouse.  Some examples are “hold your hands over your head”, or “don’t let go of the headboard”.  It’s not quite bondage, but has a similar affect.  The submissive spouse should, with all their will, seek to carry out the order.  It can be reinforced with the “threat” of getting out the ropes if they need help following orders.

Both these scenarios restrict movement, but only with your mind or will.  They don’t involve any actual binding.  You are bound only by your “honor”, as it were.  Thus, the term: honor bondage.  There’s no risk, no discomfort, and you get to play with the excitement of bondage without having to deal with the vulnerability of bondage.  Of course, it’s not quite the same, but then the vulnerability is what many (dominant and submissive spouses alike) enjoy most about bondage.

Your Turn

Have you ever tried something like honor bondage in your marriage?  Think it’s something you might enjoy? Might be worth a discussion with your spouse.  And if this seems too simple for you, you may want to check out two other posts on bondage:

My wife wants me to tie her up?!

Beginner Bondage Questions

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