At church today, I was talking to a teen, and during the conversation he asked how often my wife and I fight. I answered that we don’t fight, and he was floored. His parents fight constantly. Then it occurred to…
How to stop fighting
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The problem with being a Christian sex blogger
I felt like writing, and I have a stack of topics, but I didn’t feel like doing any research, so that leaves me with one option: writing something about myself. And so, that’s what I’m doing. You know what the…
Some “rough” sex statistics
So, many people were interested in the results. I’m guessing most don’t want just an excel spreadsheet of the data, but rather want the knowledge gained from the survey, so I’m going to do my best to break it down…
I want my husband to want me
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but we’ve been getting more and more comments from women say that they want sex more than their husbands, completely shattering the stereotype that men always want more sex. There are blogs from women…
You are not alone
I was looking at the stats for the blog today, and it reminded me of a question I had last night: I wonder how many people think they are the only ones in marriage having problems with sex, or who…
What about sex for the surviving spouse?
I received a question today that frankly stunned me: Do you have anything on, “What to do if you’re a widow or widowed now”, as now there’s no sexual partner but only desires, what do you do? Thank you It…
Where is the line between biblical submission and being a doormat?
My wife and I talk about sex a fair bit. Why? Well, probably a few reasons: I have a fascination with sexuality, particularly in marriage. The hormones and neuro-chemicals involved, physiological and psychological responses, how it impacts marriage and the rest of life. Why…
Do you have a performance based marriage?
This topic is a bit on the fringes of sex within marriage, but it’s one that gets brought up a lot, particularly in the discussions about spouses that refuse to have sex, or has had an affair, or is addicted…
Beginner Bondage Questions
Alright, my last post (My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!) raised a lot of questions, so I’m going to address them in this post. This is going to be much more of an FAQ/How-To whereas Part 1 was more…
My Wife Wants Me To Tie Her Up?!
I’ve seen this question in a few places where all of a sudden a wife lets out that she wants her husband to tie her up. Note: I’ve been seeing these WAY before 50 Shades of Grey was even a concept.…
LORD, Help Me Understand My Wife
I’ve been praying for years to understand my wife better, in particular, why she doesn’t want sex as often as I do. Being the higher drive spouse who thinks about sex almost constantly, it is sometimes mind-boggling to me why…