Definition: "Responsive desire is the sexual interest that emerges in response to a partner's initiation or other sexual cues, rather than spontaneously or independently."
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Social media says the mental load is a chore problem, and that if husbands just did their half, their exhausted wives would finally want them. But splitting the load in half does not lift it. Here is why the mental…
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When intimacy keeps getting derailed by oddly timed comments about hygiene, illness, or unrelated problems, it’s easy to wonder if you’re losing your mind or being subtly shut down. This question comes up far more often than people realize, and…
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I’ve had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called “duty sex” or “pity sex.” For those who don’t know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to…
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I had a wife ask, “Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely?” This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was…
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Topics Include: Crossdressing Reframing “duty” sex Wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t Afraid to have more children
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Topics include: Where does the energy come from? Mutual masturbation Sharing fantasies and machines Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz Why do married men masturbate? How do you meet other people? Can I use sex…
The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s…
Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020 Topics Include: Gang bang fantasy How to make sex not feel like an obligation How to get past sebacks during foreplay Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm A warning about “Boundaries”…
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In this episode, we’re tackling the subjects:How do you deal with deployment and sex drivesHow do we improve sexual intimacyHow to improve our sex lifeSatisfaction and adventurousnessHow do you get your wife to be more dominant in bedAsking doesn’t work,…
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Ultimately, it doesn’t matter what sort of sex drive you have, because it can change. Focus more on your spouse, and less on fitting them into a box. That way, if things change, you can adjust to the changes, rather…
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Ever feel like having a high sex drive is a burden? Have you wondered why God made you this way? Here are some of the reasons I think having spontaneous desire is a blessing.