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I miss porn

Some days I miss porn. Isn’t that sick? It’s true though. And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating. And often the two are tied together, but they aren’t always. There are

The most common answer I give to marriage questions

I get a fair bit of email from the blog. Some days it comes in like a flood. Other days it’s more like a trickle. I’ll be honest, I like the flood days better. I like helping people. I like seeing people reach out to

Intimacy is Risky

Intimacy is risky. No, I don’t mean like having sex outdoors, I mean actual intimacy, even if it’s not physical. Because true intimacy requires vulnerability, and vulnerability is … well, being vulnerable. And unfortunately, the more intimate we are, the more vulnerable we are, and

How do you get a marriage annulment?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: My wife and I are committed Christians, but have not yet been able to go all the way in our marriage. I believe that I should wait, but getting the

Do you need to have regular date nights?

One of the most common pieces of advice I hear from the marriage community is to have a regular weekly, or at worst, monthly, date night. A regular night where you get out of the house and spent time together with just the two of

The 5 Levels of Communication

In yesterday’s post, I mentioned the 5 levels of communication, and suddenly realized I had not yet written a post about them. So, that’s what I’m going to do today. The 5 levels of communication are not something I can take credit for. In fact,

The Sex Within Marriage Manifesto

The topic of sex within marriage within the Christian community is an oddity. The reactions to bringing up the topic are quite varied: embarrassment, shame, fear, anger, interest, inquisitiveness, looking for help, looking to share a burden, wanting to know their normal. Often many of

Can Christian couples swing?

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page a few days ago: Can we swap wives for sex (intercourse) in a marriage? We are told that there is a website on christian “swinging” (wife swapping). How christian is this in a christian

What is sex?

Paul over at The Generous Husband recently wrote a post entitled Defining Sex and it got me thinking. Now, he was looking for a straight, all purpose definition of sex. But, I don’t think we can use that. Actually, I wish he had separate works to define

The relationship is more important than the “rules”

Recently I was talking with someone about Christianity. She had grown up in a legalistic church environment where one must perform certain actions, dress a certain way, fit a certain mold, speak using specific terms in order to be considered “saved”. In Christianity, we have