We trade God’s design for real, vulnerable intimacy for safe, synthetic illusions. Porn, erotica, and AI companions offer connection without cost but train us in selfishness, not love. They promise intimacy without risk, but only real, covenantal relationship can deliver meaning.
Topics include:
Threesome temptations
Aversion to receiving manual and oral sex
Penis size
Falling asleep during sexy time
Topics include:
Where does the energy come from?
Mutual masturbation
Sharing fantasies and machines
Masturbation due to struggles with orgasming
Spontaneous / Responsive desire quiz
Why do married men masturbate?
How do you meet other people?
Can I use sex to encourage my husband to lose weight?
Topics include:
Where are you?
How to hide bruises
What role do I have in God changing my heart?
Mother of 3 young kids isn’t as interested in sex as husband
How to recover from faking orgasms?
Husband wants to be pursued
Where do you get your garbage theology?
Topics Include:
Coming clean about faking orgasms
Wanting wife to wear a diaper
Wet and messy / humiliation fetish
Is oral sex a measure of love?
Married and lonely
Chastity play
Sex outdoors
Pre-orgasmic wife
Topics include:
Husband who gets defensive about possible porn use
Did I change my mind about anal sex?
How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?
Is mutual masturbation okay if you’re separated due to work?
Haven’t been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismus
Friend can’t have sex with his wife because of prior porn use
Is a panty fetish a problem?
Wife hates being pregnant and being a mother
Topics include:
Is fingering fornication?
Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang?
How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks?
Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex
Wife doesn’t want to dress up for me
Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020
Topics Include:
Gang bang fantasy
How to make sex not feel like an obligation
How to get past sebacks during foreplay
Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm
A warning about “Boundaries” and how to mitigate the damage it can cause
Long term effects of using a vibrator
Sharing a sexual fantasy with your spouse can be daunting. I’ve received many emails from husbands and wives who have opened up to their spouse about something they want and get so completely shut down and rejected that they never want to open up again.
Last week I wrote a post about how fantasizing can be detrimental. In the comments, MaBeck asked this question: Ok, so what about if I fantasize about me and my husband, is that ok? For some reason, if I fantasize about us having sex in public, I
I know, I’m answering the same question over and over again, but people keep asking from slightly different angles, so I guess I should keep tackling it. Here’s one I received this weekend: Hi. Is it okay for a Christian couple to ‘expand’ their sexual