Is the missionary position really the only acceptable one? Where did this come from and do we really need to worry about it?
Does the missionary position make sex holy?
Tag Archives: intimacy
Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy?
Friday night is typically sex night for us. It’s not guaranteed, but it’s something we look forward to. You know, kick off Sabbath with some rest from the world and enjoy each other’s safeness, if that makes sense. Last night it didn’t happen though. It
Why marriage ruins sex
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but it’s often not the same as
6 ways to ensure you have a terrible sex life
If you haven’t heard yet, I’m planning to run a webinar in the near future. If you have a preference on the topic, you should fill out this form to vote. Currently, the topic people want to hear about most is how to have a
How to survive a growth season in your marriage
If you’ve been married for a few years, you probably know that marriages have seasons. Some are fun, some are exciting. Some are amazing and intense. Some are a bit dull. When you’re just slogging through life, and some are a bit more oppressive than
Sex is not icing on the cake, it’s the eggs in the cake
There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.” Or some variant of
How do I open up to my spouse sexually?
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
External events can stop a sex session from going anywhere
For many spouses, external events can negatively affect the sexual context. This generally is the wife, but not always, as this reader’s question shows: We are working through a sexual refusal pattern in marriage and we are making good progress. Last night I pointed out
Can married sex be erotic?
Yesterday I wrote that one of the myths we buy into is that sex has to be erotic all the time. I think it’s true that sex won’t be erotic every time. Sometimes, like with “maintenance sex” as I called it, sex isn’t that …
Having kids does not mean a healthy sex life
Sometimes we make assumptions about the couples around us. Sometimes they make assumptions about us. I remember when were still in our sexless phase, we managed to have two kids. We seem to be a very fertile couple. Now, don’t get me wrong, that’s a
Saving your marriage before it starts – Book Review
Do you ever wish someone had handed you a book when you got married to get you started on the right footing? Or one that would have helped in saving your marriage from a lot of the struggles you’ve experienced as a couple? You know,