Definition: A thin, flexible sheath typically made from latex or polyurethane, designed for wearing over the male organ during sexual intercourse to prevent sperm from meeting an egg, thus providing a method of birth control and reducing the risk of sexually transmitted infections.
Topics include:
•Talking about a lack of sex
•Not drive due to cancer treatments
•Wife doesn’t want to use lube
•Our sex life is routine
•Strap-on to help with premature ejaculation
•Do husbands like handjobs?
•Can a married couple film themselves during sex?
•Is sex better on a full stomach?
•How do you start anal sex?
Topics include:
The monthly masturbation challenge
How do I make anal sex enjoyable for her?
Periods and vacations and sex
Aging and orgasm struggles
How do I know if I’m in right?
Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared experience?
Condoms for handjobs
Resources for newlywed virgins
A few years ago, I was talking to a client during a coaching call, and we got off on a bit of a tangent about condom use. I explained a few ways that people tend to lower the protection of condoms when they use them. He was, well, shocked because he’d done many of them and had no idea that every time he did that, he was increasing the chance of conception.
And so, I’ve had this post idea on the back burner for quite a while until last week, when I mentioned in response to an anonymous question that if you don’t want kids, you shouldn’t have sex because even condoms and birth control are not perfectly effective when used correctly – and most people don’t know they’re not using them correctly.
When I posted that, one of our supporters asked if I could write that post, so here we go, because, well, my supporters do so much for me, I’m happy to help them out.
In this post, I’m only talking about the birth control effects, not the effect this could have on STDs/STIs. I’m also not going to address every birth control method, just the three I hear about the most. I’m also not going to be discussing natural family planning, but that is, at best, a delay method, not a method of birth control.
So, here are things you may be doing to mess up your birth control plans.
Topics include:
How do you use a vibrator?
Is roleplaying marriage a sin?
Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband?
Wife makes excuses about everything
When to start talking to your kids about sex?
Wife caught me watching porn
Is masturbation without porn a sin?
Topics Include:
A husband’s changing orgasms
Can widowers masturbate
Husband won’t stop masturbation habit
Calling husband “daddy”
Feeling guilty about initiating sex
Topics include:
My wife feels disrespected because I notice other women
Wife is hurt but not healing after years
Wife disconnects during foreplay
What can we do during fertile days
Oral sex questions
Husband doesn’t know our anniversary date
Should I be worried if I’m late?
In-laws over-share about sex
Fantasies for couples
Low-drive husband
Period sex
Topics:
Women use sex to control men, so men should be allowed to masturbate
Appreciating beauty vs lusting
Playlist for sex
Tenuto
Squeamish about handjobs
Another question about masturbation
How do I get my wife to masturbate for me?
Is oral sex okay?
Are men polygamous by nature?
A reader asked:
Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old…. any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research? Is there a certain “technique” we should look into (stitches vs something else I read about briefly?) dare I ask, has it affected your faith? We are Southern Baptist raised, and raising our kiddos Baptist/ non-denominational. In other words, denomination is not a factor in this decision. But there are so many opinions out there, I’m at a loss. I know that is what they are, just opinions. At this point, if I spend time in prayer and the Lord brings me peace… I’m going to trust God to give my husband the same peace. If not, we will go another route.
As the wife, even if we are both pro-vasectomy, I just don’t know how our relationship would handle the guilt if something did go wrong….
Topics Include:
Wet Dreams
Money and Marriage
Handjobs and control
Is my dead husband still with me?
Are dreams sinful?
How do I take control of my marriage?
Sex once a year
Is it wrong for a widow to have desires?
Unsatisfied with little sex
Wife suddenly changed oral skills
Best position for first time
Is oral sex a sin?
Husband has a lot more experience
Movies to get in the mood
Prepping for anal sex
How can I get my wife to show more passion?
Issues with wife’s self-esteem
Questions about lube
Realistic toys
Topics Include:
Why do people think it’s okay to commit adultery if their spouse is okay with it?
Caught son masturbating with his mom’s underwear – what do I do?
Handjobs with condoms on?
Guilt about bachelorette party
Is crossdressing normal?
The TENUTO
How do I get my wife to come to bed?
I’ve been telling husbands for years that they should learn how to give a good sensual massage. It’s one of my go-to recommendations for helping couples when it comes to sexual intimacy. The couples who have tried it all agree – it can transform a marriage to gain the skill of giving good massages. Both husbands and wives benefit from taking a couples massage course, though the immediate draw might be different.
In this post, I’m going to tell you a bit about why you should take a couples massage course. I’ll also let you know my favourite couples massage course out there.