Is the missionary position really the only acceptable one? Where did this come from and do we really need to worry about it?
Does the missionary position make sex holy?
Category Archives: Sex
Are you willing to risk sex to gain intimacy?
Friday night is typically sex night for us. It’s not guaranteed, but it’s something we look forward to. You know, kick off Sabbath with some rest from the world and enjoy each other’s safeness, if that makes sense. Last night it didn’t happen though. It
Why can’t I be happy with myself
Friday night, Jay challenged me to say “I’m happy with the progress I’ve made” out loud, to myself. Would you have a hard time saying that out loud? Even to yourself? I did. It was incredibly difficult. It took a conversation that lasted a couple
Why marriage ruins sex
Sometimes it can seem like marriage ruins sex. After getting married, many people notice that sex becomes routine, boring and just not that exciting. Yes, the spouses with the stronger drive will still have a strong desire for sex, but it’s often not the same as
6 ways to ensure you have a terrible sex life
If you haven’t heard yet, I’m planning to run a webinar in the near future. If you have a preference on the topic, you should fill out this form to vote. Currently, the topic people want to hear about most is how to have a
Talking about sex survey
I was going to write a post today about talking about sex with your spouse, but I want to get some data first. So, let’s see how many responses we can get in the next week. You can fill out the survey here to share your
Have you prepared your kids for the first time they will see porn?
Your children will watch porn. Does that thought terrify you? It did for me the first time I thought it. And before you think, “No, I can keep them from it”, I’m sad to say you can’t. Not in this world that they’re growing up
Sex is not icing on the cake, it’s the eggs in the cake
There’s been a saying in Christian circles that’s been driving me crazy for a while now. You’ve probably heard it. I know I did many times before I got married. “Sex is not that important. It’s just icing on the cake.” Or some variant of
Making your spouse earn sex can make you feel like a prostitute
We see a lot of people in Christianity saying that men have to earn the right to have sex with their wife. While I believe the advice is well-intentioned, and may even be practical, it is not biblical and it leads to some serious issues.
Why am I always the one who has to initiate sex?
This past week, we were having a discussion in our Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. I won’t post the full start of the conversation because I haven’t asked if I could, but the gist of it was this: How do you keep initiating sex when your spouse,
I’ll never be good enough
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion