Do you ever find that you have so much to do in the evening, dishes, laundry, catching up on TV shows, etc., that by the time you get to bed, you’re too tired to have sex? With 5 kids to…
The dishes can wait – How to make sex a priority
Sex
Why it’s important to talk about sex
Every once in a while, someone contacts me saying their spouse won’t talk to them about sex. Sometimes it’s part of a larger issue of not wanting to talk at all, but often every other topic is acceptable, it’s just…
A day of sex
We tried something recently that I thought I’d share, because it might interest some of you. Warning: If you’re currently in a marriage where your spouse is actively gate-keeping or refusing sex, don’t read this. It will just irritate you.…
How do you do kegel exercises?
My regular readers should know by now that we’re doing a 30-day kegel exercise challenge, and today is day 1! Now, if you want to participate in the group, you should join it on Facebook here. I thought I’d write…
Who wants to join a 30 day kegel exercise challenge?
Do you know what kegel exercises are? Alright, if you do, you can skip the next paragraph. If not, listen up. Your kegel muscles are basically your pelvic floor muscles. They’re heavily involved in anything bathroom or bedroom related (waste…
The one thing that will make you better in bed
Many spouses want to learn to be a better lover. You may think it takes knowledge about techniques, tricks and hidden tips about sex, or that it takes a perfect body, able to last hours of pleasurable motion, but the…
What can you do if your wife is too ticklish for oral sex?
You know what I love about being a Christian marriage educator? Helping people by answering questions they don’t feel they can ask anywhere else. Giving them a safe place to ask it and doing my best to make them feel…
What do people do about cleanup after sex?
Sex can often by a bit of a messy activity. Between bodily fluids and lube, there’s generally a lot of liquids to deal with after you’re done. And unfortunately, no one really talks about it, so you don’t really know…
Is it okay to write erotica for my spouse?
We hear all the time from Christian bloggers about the dangers of reading erotica. A quick search found no less than a dozen posts on the topic. However, I couldn’t find a single one (besides my own) on writing erotica…
If initiating sex is uncomfortable, start with initiating precursors
A lot of spouses are not comfortable initiating sex. It might be that you have a fear of rejection, or that your upbringing makes you uncomfortable being sexual, or any other reason. In our Becoming more sexually engaged course, we…
Is it okay to masturbate next to my spouse if they’re asleep?
Today we have a question from a reader asking about using a vibrator in bed next to her husband after sex (when he’s fallen asleep): Hi JD, do you think it’s okay for me to use a vibrator to orgasm…