Category Archives: Marriage


Dealing with a Bait and Switch

I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a month ago: My wife and I have had a troubled sex life for years. Before we were married it was incredible and she fulfilled every desire I had(yes we know it was

Your marriage is your primary relationship

Is your marriage your primary relationship in life?  I mean, besides God.  I know, that sounds a bit glib, as if I’m tacking God on as an after thought, but I’m not.  I just want to focus on human relationships (and yes, I believe Jesus

Do you need to have regular date nights?

One of the most common pieces of advice I hear from the marriage community is to have a regular weekly, or at worst, monthly, date night.  A regular night where you get out of the house and spent time together with just the two of

Active Listening

In this week’s challenge, I mentioned active listening as a skill that people should be using, but hadn’t had a post up yet about it.  So, today I’m going to rectify that. Active listening, which I’ve also heard called Listening 2.0 or Level 2 Listening,

The 5 Levels of Communication

In yesterday’s post, I mentioned the 5 levels of communication, and suddenly realized I had not yet written a post about them.  So, that’s what I’m going to do today. The 5 levels of communication are not something I can take credit for.  In fact,

Does your spouse get the “best” you?

As many of my readers know, I recently took a new job.  The work is fantastic.  The pay is more than adequate.  I’m respected, and I feel, and am told, that I’m a real asset to the company.  Not only that, but it gives me

Is resentment ruining your marriage?

Resentment is a dangerous feeling. I see it in marriages nearly every day. A spouse has done something years ago, and it was never dealt with, or never adequately resolved. Perhaps there was no apology, or maybe no forgiveness given. Either way, resentment grows. There

Is your marriage an oasis?

This post is mostly me thinking aloud.  I’m exploring a thought, something I’ve noticed in my own marriage and others.  Many marriage experts, counselors, therapists, etc. will tell you that people need time to decompress between work and home life.  They need time to shift

How do I build trust in him again?

I received this question from our Have A Question page this weekend: My husband and I have been married almost a year. About 4 months ago he came home from work and started to look up a porn site. He hadn’t done this since we

SWM002: Getting rid of veto power in the bedroom

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Learning to Talk R.I.T.E.

Last night I was at a church leadership meeting, and we were given an except from a book called Becoming a Mission-Driven Church, and it had an acronym it in: R.I.T.E. that nicely encapsulated a lot of the communication ideas I’ve written about on this

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