For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to…
Is it OK not to swallow?
Marriage
Is it okay to track how often you have sex?
How often do you have sex? Do you know? Are you sure? Do you ever have a disagreement about when the last time you had sex was? Or how often you have sex on average? I came across a study…
Is scheduled sex helpful for a marriage?
Often the idea of scheduling sex is met by resistance from one or both spouses in a marriage.
How do I know my spouse is my soul-mate?
This is a question that plagues couples, both within and outside of Christianity. It comes in many different forms: Is my spouse my soul mate? Did I miss my soul mate? Is my soul mate still out there? If my…
You don’t have time for sex?
This concept presents itself in two ways generally: One spouse has a checklist of things that must occur before sex. See this comment. Life is just too busy and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day. The…
Book Review: Real Marriage
Last week I was asked what my opinions on the book “Real Marriage” by Mark & Grace Driscoll were. I didn’t have any because I hadn’t read the book. I’ve seen the cover here and there, and I’d heard the name,…
Is my spouse attracted to me?
I wrote a survey this weekend to help out with a post and answer a question from a reader: Was their spouse attracted to them? So many people commented, both in the survey, on Facebook, message boards, in emails, comments, etc., that…
Does my husband still find me attractive?
Yesterday morning (4 am my time), I received an anonymous question from a new reader. She’s had a, shall we say, colourful life, but now has settled down, has become a Christian, has a husband and is growing in Christ.…
How to resolve conflict more effectively
A few posts ago, I wrote about How to Stop Fighting, and after thinking about, I decided I wanted to expand on that. I realized that the answer is simple: the talk more. But, that in itself isn’t a full…
Asperger’s Syndrome and marriage
Two posts ago, I wrote about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse. If you haven’t read it, I highly suggest going back and doing so to frame this post. It also has a lot of content I’m going to leverage in…
How does A.D.H.D. affect a marriage?
My last post about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse discussed what ADHD was, the differences in the brain from neural-typicals, but I didn’t have the time to get into what behaviors one sees due to this difference, particularly those that…