Jay Dee, Author at Uncovering Intimacy

Sex Noises Survey Results

We were looking for information on the types of noises people make during sex, but we came across an interesting data point – are men more caring lovers than women?

SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more

Answering Anonymous Questions about Married Sex

Topics Include:
Snoopy wife caught husband
Is orgasming the same as cumming?
Is OMGYes okay?
Ejaculate colour & consistency
Encouraging senior sex
Wife won’t “finish” oral sex
Wife searched for porn
Birth control for Christians
Wife’s smell
What sexual behaviour is prohibited
Zoloft and PE update
Multiple wives – again

SWM 077 – July 2021 Questions – Dealing with PCOS, fantasizing about your fiancee and more

Topics Include:
How do I hide my BDSM toys when I live at home with my parents?
Does God value boys more than girls based on Leviticus 12:2-5?
How do you handle the hormones from PCOS when you have a low-drive husband?
Is it okay to fantasize about my fiancee?

SWM 076 – June 2021 Questions – Boring sex lives, ED and PE troubles and breast play

Topics Include:
How to improve a boring sex life
Why only ED during sex?
Meds for Premature Ejaculation
Risky public sex
Should I talk to my doctor if I have ED?
Fantasizing about premarital sex
Turned on by my wife urinating
Wife with no interest in sex
Is breastplay required for a good marriage?

SWM 075 – May 2021 Questions – How we look at sex, refractory periods, asking about orgasms and more

In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
How we look at sex
Why we have refractory periods
Whether or not it’s common for a husband to have to ask his wife if she had an orgasm
A husband who is secretly purchasing toys
A widow who wants to know what happened to her husband who was cremated

SWM 074 – Apr 2021 Questions – Friends who grope, postpartum recovery, anxious husbands and more

Topics Include:
Friends touching me inappropriately
Postpartum recovery from the husband’s perspective
Husband is anxious about sex
Not attracted to my husband anymore
Husband doesn’t like oral sex
How to get over husband’s porn use
Narcissistic husband and adulterous wife

Is a sexual activity wrong if it was learned from a sinful source?

Does the source of an idea determine whether or not it’s good? Let’s say you had a prior porn addiction and you saw something you want to try with your spouse, does that make it now sinful? Here’s a question I received a while ago that I’m going to address today.

SWM 072 – Mar 2021 Questions – Should humans be non-monogamous and more

Topics include:
Is any part of porn okay?
Is it unreasonable to expect sex after oral?
Are humans meant to be non-monogamous?
Is it okay to teach kids to masturbate safely?
Wife doesn’t enjoy sex, but says she wants to be promiscuous

SWM 071 – Is it okay for Christians to have sexual fantasies?

Are sexual fantasies okay for Christians? Does it matter what the fantasy is? If it’s only in your mind, does that make it okay?

Why you should take couples massage classes

I’ve been telling husbands for years that they should learn how to give a good sensual massage. It’s one of my go-to recommendations for helping couples when it comes to sexual intimacy. The couples who have tried it all agree – it can transform a marriage to gain the skill of giving good massages. Both husbands and wives benefit from taking a couples massage course, though the immediate draw might be different.

In this post, I’m going to tell you a bit about why you should take a couples massage course. I’ll also let you know my favourite couples massage course out there.

SWM 070 – Feb 2021 Questions – Semi-public sex, squirting, falling asleep during sex and more

Topics Include:
Semi-public sex
Squirting
Low drive wife
Fell asleep during sex
Wife doesn’t like physical contact
What is pornographic
Poophole loophole

Rebecca Lynn Gruwell on SWM 047 – Spontaneous desire is a blessing: “I have thoroughly enjoyed these articles on spontaneous vs responsive sex drive! They have been so helpful in putting words…” Mar 18, 08:58

Jay Dee on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “I know! The first time I heard her deliver it, I heard a father in the room say “We need…” Mar 14, 23:09

Cassandra on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “I am not gonna lie, I was bummed that that ended so abruptly! Is it possible to do a part…” Mar 14, 20:55

Prameed J Pilli on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “When ( man or woman ) interferes with God/ nature as we know it – we invite disaster. Sooner or…” Mar 14, 02:08

Michael G Deluca on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “Very brave of you to go against the popular cultural point of the day. I hope you can continue to…” Mar 14, 01:28

Anonymous on Should I be upset if my spouse falls asleep during sex?: “You falling asleep is not a reason for him to cheat. First, you need to explore why you’re falling asleep.…” Mar 13, 20:16

Rebecca on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “I would love to hear your daughter share her journey.” Mar 13, 16:14

Rebecca on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “What a great speech! Kudos to your daughter for taking on such a hot topic and being willing to suffer…” Mar 13, 16:10

Cat on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “I commend your daughter for her courage. She is putting a voice to a very unpopular, politically-incorrect, and yet logical…” Mar 13, 12:20

Cat on SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism: “Nate, excellent correlation. Yes, these lawmakers / advocates are essentially predators on our children, deliberately working at destroying the parent-child…” Mar 13, 12:10