Sexual Immorality Archives - Uncovering Intimacy

SWM 155 – Hookup Culture – When You Take Relationship Out of Sex

We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided.

Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning – where bodies meet, but no one truly connects.

I’m continuing this series exploring how, when we remove aspects of God’s intent for sex, we end up with all the examples of sexual immorality we see in our world.

Last time, I tackled what removing covenant from sex gets you: sex before marriage, and the fallout from that choice.

Today, we’re going to push that even further and look at hookup culture. At first glance it might seem like sex before marriage taken to the next level – but that expansion comes with new problems.

This isn’t just the removal of covenant – it’s the removal of the relationship itself.

SWM 154 – Sex Before Marriage – When You Remove Covenant from Intimacy

In my last post, I wrote about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended.

However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God’s plan so as to distort sex. To make it not something that’s worship and creative, but rather destructive to ourselves, to each other, and to society as a whole.

So, today we’re going to explore sex outside of marriage, or what happens when you remove the covenant from sexual intimacy.

And to be clear, the legal status of the relationship is not the big problem here. It’s the intentional lifelong monogamous commitment to each other. Arguably, many marriages in the Bible are considered marriages simply because they had sex. However, sex is meant to seal a covenant, not substitute for one.

Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?

How do you answer the question of whether or not it’s okay for widows to masturbate? Well, I got asked this very question back in August and I’ll admit, I’ve been hesitant to answer it. Here’s the comment from our Are sex toys allowed in

What do you do if your husband has ED due to medication?

Today I have another question for you from our Have A Question page:

How do I deal with temptation if my spouse is a sexual refuser?

Another question from our Have A Question page. Unfortunately, I don’t have any idea what post he read just before asking, but still, I think we can try to answer the question without that. Here we go: I agree with you completely on all points.

Is sensuality in Christian marriage a sin?

I received two questions on our Have A Question page this week that I’m willing to bet come from the same person. They also sort of are on the same topic, so I’m going to tackle them at the same time: I once had a

Is oral sex a sin before marriage?

Is oral sex wrong before marriage? After all, it’s not technically fornication if it doesn’t include intercourse, right? What’s the harm?

Should Christians read erotic literature?

Erotica is becoming mainstream. 50 Shades of Grey was a New York Times bestseller last year, and the movie is expecting to be one of the largest grossing movies to date. Christianity has largely been silent on the issue. Oh, don’t get me wrong, there are

Informative or Erotic?

Being a Christian Sex Blogger comes with a unique challenge: How do you educate about sex while keeping it informative, interesting, accessible, yet not crossing a line into being erotic? I received an email this week from a single male who seemed to be chastising

Book Review: The Fantasy Fallacy

Last month, I finally got to read The Fantasy Fallacy by Shannon Ethridge. It had been in my kindle for a while just itching to be read. The Fantasy Fallacy addresses a timeless question I think, but made even more timely in our particular age,

Is masturbation a sin?

This has been an ongoing discussion/disagreement between Paul Byerly and I for just over a year now. I have a great respect for Paul, and enjoy our game of theological tennis, even if we don’t see eye to eye on a few topics. It all started with