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My husband & I have been together for 30yrs we are happy & have raised happy children, we once had a varied happy sex life however he became diabetic 7yrs ago and a side effect of the medicine has caused numerous yeast diseases and impotency. we enjoyed sex at least 5 times per week, including forplay of kissing & oral sex. because of the yeast desease the gp has advised against kissing as i kept getting sore throats, my husband is now all but impotent and when he uses viagra it gives him terrible headaches afterwards which makes me feel guilty for wanting him to take it. Our life together is still very close, we enjoy dancing and working together in general, but the lack of sex has now become an issue for me, we now use a vibrator and i sometimes watch porn to get me going, I do feel awful and need some clarity on is this sinful and if so what does God want me to do about the lack of sex in my life, which is a natural normal activity
So, first off, let’s deal with the immediate issue: the porn. I think the reason you feel awful is that you are feeling convicted to stop. The Bible is quite clear on sexual immorality, and I believe porn falls squarely in that category. You are inviting others into your sexual relationship (virtual or not), and that is simply not acceptable. It’s damaging to you, your relationship with your husband, and your relationship with God. Find ways for your husband to get you going, like a massage, or get him to write you erotic stories, that way you aren’t inviting other’s into your sexual relationship.
Secondly, you seem to be focusing on the symptoms rather than the root cause. Change medication, or better yet, look for ways to go off medication (with the help of a qualified doctor). I have a friend who is diabetic (strongly medicated), and went med-free after some radical diet changes. In the end, he decided he liked his old diet better than being med-free, but your husband may decide he likes sex better than certain foods 🙂 You’ll have to find a naturopathic doctor for that, sadly. Most doctors will still try to push medication, but I have personally seen friends with lupus, multiple sclerosis, and diabetes be symptom free due to their eating choices, and no medication, despite the “common” medical knowledge that that’s impossible. But, I’m not going to lie, it’s a fairly radical change you have to make. But, that would solve the yeast infections and the impotency, theoretically.
A final option would be to look at other erectile dysfunction meds. If Viagra gives him headaches, maybe try some others. Not the ideal solution in my opinion, but it’s one that has the benefit of being fairly easy to try.
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This post could have been written by me about my husband’s issues. Here is what we found out. the yeast infections are the result of uncontrolled diabetes ( high sugar). Check with your husband’s doctor about different meds- my hubby changed insulin and it has made a huge difference. Jay’s right about diet even the smallest changes can help. Think natural in terms of food- butter- regular sugar- honey-maple syrup-olive oil- whole grain flours. Paleo diets are high in protein but low in carbs- be careful if your hubby is insulin dependent as mine is. I bake all of the time so that we are getting more natural snacks. We also ditched margarine.
Hubby has too many reactions to the ED prescriptions so we turned to supplements. They work about as good. Prelox which is a supplement has helped. Essential Oils has helped as well.
Finally focusing on mutual pleasure rather than intercourse has help immensely. Good luck
Have you considered a vacuum pump? This works very well for me and does not have the impact of the drugs.
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