SWM015: Valentine’s Day Dangers
Valentine’s day is just around the corner. Only a few days left in fact. If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you. Valentine’s Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples. I’ll explain what I mean, and then give a couple tips for how to survive it.
Valentine’s Day is Dangerous
- Expectations are high
- Stress is high
- Communication is low
- High Expectations + High Stress + Low Communication = Failure to meet Expectations
- Valentine’s Day is a holiday of Fantasy, not reality. It forces us to want a fairy tale, and then be disappointed if it doesn’t happen.
Valentine’s Day is a day of Contradictions
- Valentine’s Day is supposedly about love…but in reality it’s about meeting a manufactured expectation. Not out of love, but out of fear.
- You are supposed to guess at what your spouse wants more than anything else, and if your wrong, it’s your fault.
- The prize for winning is great sex. The cost of mediocrity is obligatory sex. The punishment for losing is a lack of sex, on the one day of the year where you are made to believe everyone else in the world is having sex.
- You could deliver a thoughtful gift, or have a nice dinner on any other day and it be seen as a romantic gesture, but on Valentine’s Day, the most romantic day of the year, it’s seen as the bare minimum: Expected, but often not appreciated.
Tips for Valentine’s Day
- If possible, celebrate Valentine’s Day on any other day except February 14th: Cheaper flowers, easier bookings, easier to find babysitters.
- Have sex before having your big meal
- For gifts, buy something that will last and pay dividends while also being personal and something that will draw you two together. (Like Melt, for example)