Uncovering Intimacy

SWM 059 – Anonymous Questions from June and July 2020

Answering questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.
Topics include:
Wife keeps falling asleep during sex
Is it possible for women to orgasm without cumming?
Wife wants bigger toys
How do I handle my wife screaming at me?
Clone-a-willy
Blowjobs make me nauseous
Do men who take ED meds tell their wives?
Why should single people abstain from sex?
Insecurity about penis size
Why do I look at men’s crotches?
Husband is constantly sexual
Is prostate stimulation wrong?

SWM 058 – Anonymous Questions from May 2020

Topics include:
Husband is in jail
Husband masturbates all the time
Husband won’t quit porn
Should Christians avoid Tantric Sex?
Premature Ejaculation
Bondage Resources
Jock Itch
Wife is not interested in sex
Husband not interested in sex with wife
Being “too loose” after children
When to disclose a masturbation & porn addiction when dating

SWM 057 – Anonymous Questions – April 2020

Topics Include:
How to get more intimate nights with my wife
Can I have sex with my ex-husband?
Does my husband want kinky sex?
Is it okay to want more passionate sex?
What happens when you die? – what about Lazarus and the Rich man?
Why does my wife suddenly want daily sex?
Is it okay for my wife to flash me?
Wife thinks it’s sinful to touch herself during sex

What do couples do when one wants sex and the other doesn’t?

The difference in sexual desire between a husband and a wife is one of those universal conflicts. I think just about every marriage deals with it at some point. If yours hasn’t yet – well congratulations newlyweds! Just because it’s a conflict though doesn’t mean

Last minute gift ideas for Father’s Day

Anyone else feel like Father’s Day sort of sneaked up on them? I mean, Mother’s Day seems to have a lot of ads, I feel like there was lots of warning. But Father’s Day? I mean, I get flyers to the hardware store to buy power

SWM 056 – How To Feel Connected During Sex

What does it mean to feel “connected” during sex. For many spouses, when their husband or wife says “I don’t feel connected during sex”, they get quite confused. They’re thinking “I am literally inside of you/you are literally inside of me, how can we be MORE connected?!”

But of course, they’re not talking about a physical connection, but rather an emotional, mental or spiritual connection.

SWM 055 – Anonymous Questions from March 2020

Topics include:
Is fingering fornication?
Is it wrong to fulfill my wife’s fantasy of having a gang-bang?
How to tell my husband sex is bad when he drinks?
Husband’s penis keeps falling out during sex
Wife doesn’t want to dress up for me

SWM 054 – Anonymous Questions – February 2020

Anonymous questions from February 2020.

Topics include:
How can I become more comfortable masturbating?
Why wouldn’t he use lube?
How to have “team sex” (not what you think)
Husband can’t be emotionally intimate or trust me
Meta discussion about piercings
How do I start to fix my marriage?
Becoming more sexually engaged

What happens when you die?

Question from a reader:
So, I was listening to one of your podcasts, I don’t remember which one but you were talking about souls and what happens after death. You said that nothing happens after death until Jesus comes back. But I want to know what you think about the story Jesus tells in Luke 6:19-31, it’s the story of the rich man and the beggar. After the beggar Lazarus dies, he was carried away in Abraham’s bosom. According to this story, when you die, your soul goes paradise (I believe).

SWM 053 – Anonymous Questions – December 2019 & January 2020

Anonymous questions from December 2019 and January 2020

Topics Include:
Gang bang fantasy
How to make sex not feel like an obligation
How to get past sebacks during foreplay
Wife needs to feel “dirty” to orgasm
A warning about “Boundaries” and how to mitigate the damage it can cause
Long term effects of using a vibrator

SWM 052 – Are Dominance/Submission Games in the Bedroom OK?

A reader asks:
I enjoy calling my husband “Sir” in bed, as we enjoy our submissive/dominant roles in marriage to be played out in sex as well. He felt weird about it at first, but now loves it. I read your post a while ago where you mentioned that humiliation isn’t good for your partner in the long term. Would you consider this to be humiliation? What about the trend to call men “daddy” in bed?

Jay Dee on Is anal sex a sin?: “I agree, if the risks were anything close to what you’re claiming, it wouldn’t be. But they’re not. If you…” Sep 26, 20:54

Mk on Is anal sex a sin?: “Surprised I used a article that says wives must submit to anal sex. Did I ever say I agreed with…” Sep 26, 15:06

Autumn on SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more: “I would definitely say the husband with the smell issue should tell his wife. She may even be able to…” Sep 25, 15:30

Jay Dee on SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more: “Just because something hurts (perception), doesn’t mean it’s hurtful (intent). Recognizing a behaviour is not a criticism unless it’s levelled…” Sep 24, 15:12

Laura on SWM 078 – August 2021 Questions – Catching spouses with porn, birth control, Zoloft and PE and more: “I think that a helpful answer for the husband who is objecting to his wife’s body odor, would be for…” Sep 24, 13:54

Jay Dee on When did God stop allowing multiple wives: “I believe I’ve already debunked all these points in your other comments. Unless you have something new to add, I’m…” Sep 22, 18:58

Raphael Tisserand on When did God stop allowing multiple wives: “Again, I wouldn’t know about whether the Incel Movement wants to “force multiple women to be with them”. You seem…” Sep 22, 18:03

Autumn on SWM 077 – July 2021 Questions – Dealing with PCOS, fantasizing about your fiancee and more: “To the woman with pcos issues, my sister and I both have them as well. Mine aren’t too bad, but…” Sep 22, 11:59

Jay Dee on What do you do if you suspect your spouse of secretly masturbating?: “She’s probably embarrassed, and it’s much easier to get angry than to admit something that makes you feel so vulnerable.…” Sep 22, 08:05

Jay Dee on When did God stop allowing multiple wives: “No, the incel movement is so upset at not being able to find a woman who wants to be with…” Sep 22, 08:02