I’ve spent the last few years trying to get better insight into the mind of a spouse who desires less sex. Why? Because I’m married to one, and one of my goals in life is to make her feel known…
Are you sabotaging your sex life like I do?
Sex Drive
Making your spouse earn sex can make you feel like a prostitute
We see a lot of people in Christianity saying that men have to earn the right to have sex with their wife. While I believe the advice is well-intentioned, and may even be practical, it is not biblical and it…
Why am I always the one who has to initiate sex?
This past week, we were having a discussion in our Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. I won’t post the full start of the conversation because I haven’t asked if I could, but the gist of it was this: How do you keep…
I don’t think my spouse is attracted to me
I received this question through our Have A Question page yesterday: Why do I feel that my wife doesn’t find me attractive or desirable? For the past couple of years, I have been feeling like my wife doesn’t find me…
Does your spouse have permission to arouse you?
I get a lot of emails from husbands and wives who get rejected for sex frequently. They often want to know how to initiate better, how to arouse their spouse, how to turn them on and get them interested in…
Is sex your drug of choice?
I’ve had a bit of a rough month, personally. Nothing really changed, I just got really tired of the long commute, lack of sleep, high stress and lower pay of my new job, loss of autonomy, and on and on.…
Can a marriage survive without sex?
I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: Can a Christian marriage survive without it ever once being consummated? My wife and I had pain issues in every attempt to consummate our relationship.…
How do you tell your spouse you’re having too much sex?
I received this question last week through our anonymous Have A Question page: I am a 32 year old mom of three little ones, with a pretty good sex drive (2-6a week) but my husband has much higher than me.…
SWM024: Why Do Men Think Sex is a Reward?
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Often men see sex as a reward, even when it’s not intended for one. Conversely, if they don’t have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something. Why is this? I think there are three reasons.
SWM019: How long does a sexual awakening take?
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Podcast: Play in new window | Download | EmbedSubscribe to the Podcast: Apple Podcasts | Spotify | Amazon Music | Android | iHeartRadio | Podchaser | Email | TuneIn | Deezer | RSS | MoreSexual awakenings are a point where…
How do I get my wife to be more sexually active?
I received this question through our anonymous Have A Question page this weekend: My wife really wants to come out of her shell, but she doesn’t know how. Can you recommend any ‘tools’ which she can use to flourish in…