We see a lot of people in Christianity saying that men have to earn the right to have sex with their wife. While I believe the advice is well-intentioned, and may even be practical, it is not biblical and it leads to some serious issues.
This past week, we were having a discussion in our Uncovering Intimacy Champions group. I won’t post the full start of the conversation because I haven’t asked if I could, but the gist of it was this: How do you keep initiating sex when your spouse,
When we started fixing our marriage and my wife realized how important sex was both to me and to our relationship, we started improving our physical relationship. We had sex more often, and it was more varied. We both enjoyed the changes. However, a discussion
Episode 29. Today we’re answering questions about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low sex drives.
Here’s a question that’s very important to me, because it’s one that is beginning of something wonderful in a marriage. I’ve gotten it so many times over the years that I wrote an entire course around it. How do I open up to my spouse
One of the largest, and yet least talked about, struggles in marriage is the difference in sex drives. Often one spouse ends up doing the bulk of the initiating and pushing for a more varied and passionate sex life. Often, this ends up with a
I’ve been playing with a new chat feature on the website, and it’s been interesting to talk to some of my readers. Here’s a question I received this week and I asked if I could write a post about it.: Hi! I’ve got an odd
I get a lot of husbands asking me the question “Why doesn’t my wife get wet?” I similarly get questions from wives asking why their husband doesn’t believe them when they say they’re enjoying themselves during sex despite not being lubricated. So, here we go.
A couple of posts ago, I wrote about being more skilled at initiating sex, but today we’re going to tackle rejection. I think sexual rejection might be one of the touchiest conflicts to handle in marriage. It’s hard to do correctly and too easily to
I think one of the biggest conflicts regarding sex with a lot of couples is simply how initiation and rejection are handled. From both sides. I think if we could improve that one back and forth conversation, a lot of marriages would be a substantial
Yesterday I wrote that one of the myths we buy into is that sex has to be erotic all the time. I think it’s true that sex won’t be erotic every time. Sometimes, like with “maintenance sex” as I called it, sex isn’t that …