The other day on our way home from a Christmas party we were talking and Jay was telling me he doesn’t know what to say or how to answer people’s comments and emails when they say that they are being refused and are hurting. This
In Christianity, we spend a lot of time talking about when is the right time to talk about sex with your kids or sexual boundaries with a boyfriend/girlfriend, but usually the question “When is the best time to talk about sex with your spouse?” is
It’s a fairly common belief: the idea that kids ruin your sex life. We see it in movies, in TV shows. It’s so pervasive that it’s become almost accepted as truth. In fact, there are couples who decide not to have kids, because of this
For most of our marriage, oral sex has been very one sided. For the first years, it was solely me performing oral sex on my wife, and never the other way around. It took her years to get accustomed to the idea, actually it’s a
How often do you have sex? Do you know? Are you sure? Do you ever have a disagreement about when the last time you had sex was? Or how often you have sex on average? I came across a study once (I wish I could
Often the idea of scheduling sex is met by resistance from one or both spouses in a marriage.
This is a question that plagues couples, both within and outside of Christianity. It comes in many different forms: Is my spouse my soul mate? Did I miss my soul mate? Is my soul mate still out there? If my spouse dies and I marry
This concept presents itself in two ways generally: One spouse has a checklist of things that must occur before sex. See this comment. Life is just too busy and there doesn’t seem to be enough time in the day. The answer to both is pretty
A few posts ago, I wrote about How to Stop Fighting, and after thinking about, I decided I wanted to expand on that. I realized that the answer is simple: the talk more. But, that in itself isn’t a full answer, because some people don’t
Two posts ago, I wrote about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse. If you haven’t read it, I highly suggest going back and doing so to frame this post. It also has a lot of content I’m going to leverage in this one. In fact, I’m
My last post about dealing with a non-neural-typical spouse discussed what ADHD was, the differences in the brain from neural-typicals, but I didn’t have the time to get into what behaviors one sees due to this difference, particularly those that impact a marriage. I you