SWM012: Why do married men masturbate?

Jan 20, 2016 by Jay Dee in Podcast

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I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I’d do a podcast version for those who don’t read the blog, or are new and aren’t aware of my older posts. I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, Selfishness and/or Addiction.

Ignorance

They don’t know the damage they are doing to their relationship
They don’t communicate about sex, and so their spouse either doesn’t know or hasn’t shared how it’s hurting them
They’ve never been asked to stop

Selfishness

They’re more interested in an orgasm than a relationship
It’s easier to get an orgasm alone without a partner
You don’t have to worry about their feelings or their pleasure
You can focus on you 100%
You don’t have to be intimate and vulnerable alone
Solo masturbation is much “safer, emotionally

Addiction

Whatever the reason for starting, they can’t stop
Their brain is programmed to do it and it’s hard to stop those neuropathways from firing
They need help to break the cycle, it’s too much for them to fight on their own
Check out Anonymous Marriage Coaching if you need help freeing yourself from this cycle