Sexual Bets To Drive Personal Development

Jay Dee

Sexual Bets To Drive Personal Development

Jun 22, 2012

How we used sexual bets to push ourselves to work on our personal development goals.

A couple of posts ago, I wrote about my wife and I placing sexual bets on a card game, and we had an awesome time.  Not only was the sex fun, but it brought a new element of fun to the card game as well.  So, we started thinking about what else we could improve using this same method.

So, we’re going to try to apply it to personal development.  This time around, specifically weight loss.  We both have some extra pounds we want to lose, so we’ve set up a game for ourselves.  We’re going to track loss week to week.  From Monday to Monday, we’re going to weigh ourselves and the spouse who losses the most gets to pick a sexual favour to be performed by the other spouse.

Some qualifiers:

  • Weight loss is determined by % of weight loss that week.  Wouldn’t be fair to go straight by amount, I’d have an advantage every week.
  • No sabotaging the other partner by buying them sweets or baking things for them.
  • No giving up just because the other partner has won a couple of weeks.  What is likely to happen is one of us will get ahead, then plateau or correct and the other will catch up, perhaps even pass.
  • We stick with it until we reach our goals.

We haven’t nailed down any rules for the rewards, but I think something simple like “only encompasses one night” should be sufficient.  Honestly, our relationships is good enough that we know the other won’t force us to do anything we don’t really want to do. If you don’t know what your limits are, you should check out Our Sexploration List resource

We’ll see how it actually works, but I’m excited.  We’re halfway done the week, and we’ve each lost a couple of pounds already.  My wife is winning by 0.7% so far, and I’m fairly sure if she wins, I’m going to be giving her a long massage, but frankly, time spent running my hands over her naked body sounds good to me too.

What personal development goals of yours would be sped up by using this method?  Do you think your spouse would go for it?

Looking for help?

5 thoughts on “Sexual Bets To Drive Personal Development”

  1. Robyn Gibson says:

    Too funny. Just last night we were playing crib and my husband made reference to a sexual bet. He was laughing though because my crib game is on par with my golf game – very poor! But I have a lot of fun doing both and don’t really care about the destination – for me its the journey through the game.

    1. Jay Dee says:

      I agree, I’m much more about the game as well. I like the struggle to win more than the winning.

  2. Userdand says:

    Robyn, BD here. I just left a comment about sexual bets on this blog at the link below. It is “awaiting moderation.” If Jay Dee publishes it, please take a look. I think you’ll like it. What’s not to like about me though? HA! I can’t believe we are both on here nearly a year late and going to the same places too. If he doesn’t publish I’ll mail you a copy.

    I really like his bondage posts. It takes a lot of courage and dedication to minsitry and mission to post such a hot-button topic in such an open and personal way. I think gives a lot of Christian wives who are in turmoil over it some breathing room to consider it and how it may or may not tie into submission for them. That really was an serendipitous pun but I decided to leave it in. Take care.

    1. Jay Dee says:

      I haven’t blocked any real comment to date. The moderation is a safety net really.

      Glad you felt willing to comment, and I’m glad you liked the post.

  3. Robyn Gibson says:

    Hey BD! nice to see you again.

    I’ll be heading over and have a read right after lunch. Hubby’s only got an hour for lunch and he’s instructed me to have the collars and ‘cuffs ready. Better get moving!

Share your thoughts