Sometimes you need to be willing to risk what you have in order to get something better. I’m not talking about leaving your spouse on the hopes of a better one, though that’s the message the world tries to peddle.…
Growth takes risk
Physical Intimacy
Dealing with a Bait and Switch
I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a month ago: My wife and I have had a troubled sex life for years. Before we were married it was incredible and she fulfilled every desire I…
Do orgasm times change as you get older?
I received this question from our anonymous Have A Question page about a week ago: Do all women take a long time to have an orgasm? I feel like I am weird or something because it doesn’t take much time…
Should I be upset if my spouse falls asleep during sex?
So, I got this question yesterday from our anonymous Have A Question page: Last night my husband decided to finish inside me and since I was no where near orgasm at the time, we thought I should be finished with…
You cannot make a refuser generous
I get a lot of husbands and wives asking me how to change their spouse. How do you make them go from a refuser to a generous spouse? After all, I managed it, so what’s the trick? The truth is,…
Christians and Erectile Dysfunction Medication
Here’s a question I received from our anonymous Have a Question page about dealing with erectile dysfunction: Hey Jay! Have you ever dealt with the Christian’s response to medications that are designed to help men with E.D.? I’m into my…
Garbage In – Garbage Out
When I was in school for software engineering, we had a lot of acronyms that floated around. One of the was GIGO. Garbage In – Garbage Out. The point was that we always had to validate what the user put…
We tend to do what we like
I received this anonymous question from our Have A Question page back in a couple of months ago. I’m married for 29 years. I love being with my husband sexually but why do I always have to remind him slow…
I miss porn
Some days I miss porn. Isn’t that sick? It’s true though. And I think a lot of people who have quit porn miss it from time to time. Same goes for masturbating. And often the two are tied together, but…
Your friends are fake
It’s true. We live in a world full of fake people. We watch them, we compare ourselves to them, we judge ourselves by their standard. But they’re all fake. I’m talking about our social media friends. Our social networks of…
Can Christians Pursue Sexual Pleasure?
I have a reader (who I won’t out, because I didn’t ask if I could), often sends me emails with questions related to married, Christian sexuality. I love getting them, because, thinking about this stuff and sharing it is one…