SWM 149 – My daughter’s speech – Transgenderism is a lie

Apr 20, 2025 by Jay Dee in Podcast

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Today we’re going to do something a little bit different. For those who have been listening for more than a year, you know that my kids are in 4H and every year they have to deliver a speech. For the last few years, my eldest daughter has been delivering speeches about transgenderism based on her research and her own personal experiences. Now, these are difficult topics, and in a lot of cases, she gets, angry judges who mark her poorly simply because of the topic and her stance on it. And it’s easy to think that, oh, that’s just her father thinking that she should have scored better, but when a large number of people every year come to her afterwards telling her how impactful her speech was, how they don’t understand how she couldn’t have placed higher or sometimes at all, when the scoring comes back with no notes, only a bad score, and every year people tell her that she should be talking to churches about this, it’s hard to think otherwise.

This year we had an elected government official say she should be speaking to the government about this and sharing her perspectives. This year she actually won at the local level and the district level before getting shot down at the regional level, and the same thing happened. We even had people tell us they went to the judges afterwards to ask them if they made a mistake because so much of the audience thought she was the clear winner, and then she didn’t even place in the top three, which would have let her go on to the provincial level. During her speech, I saw multiple people in tears in the audience, and I didn’t see that for any of the other speakers.

So, as has been our tradition for the last three years, we wanted to share this one with you as well in the hopes that it might impact you. So this is my daughter’s speech titled Transgenderism is a Lie.

Transgenderism is a lie, a sham, and it promises false hope

Hello listeners.

I imagine for people who have never experienced gender dysphoria that it’s hard to understand the desire to go through social or medical transition. It’s a very time-consuming, painful and sometimes difficult process. But I understand. I’ve been on that side.

Today, I want to share how the normalization of gender dysphoria is drawing people to choose transition in hopes that you can understand and be compassionate.

The majority of people who choose transition are young adults and kids uncomfortable with the body they find themselves in. I was and still am one of them.

I hate the body I live in. I’ve hated it since before I even understood what the word dysphoria or puberty meant. I was an early bloomer, and my gender dysphoria made itself very apparent when I noticed I was different from my peers. I was completely and utterly uncomfortable with how I looked and felt. Of course, I had people tell me this was normal, but I didn’t see it. If anything I saw the opposite. I read books about girls being excited to develop and late bloomers being upset they didn’t fit in, and that was something I just never could understand. There was nothing I wouldn’t have given to go back to the body I had.

That’s a lot to think about as an 11 and 12-year-old. I still think about myself like that on most days. I don’t enjoy living in the body I have. I find it an inconvenience, and it doesn’t feel like it’s mine most of the time. I can’t remember a time when I could look in the mirror and not feel a little like I’m just looking at a game character I happen to be in control of, instead of myself.

There is a good chance those feelings won’t ever go away. I’m only 18, and our brains are very plastic, so nothing is set in stone. But it’s been almost 8 years. I’m not expecting the dysphoria to completely go away anymore, and that’s okay because I’ve learned how to cope and live with it. For example, I used to love looking at dresses and skirts but could never wear them without feeling incredibly unwell. Now, though, dresses are some of my favourite things to wear, and that took a lot of time, effort, and patience.

If I hadn’t found a way to cope with it, do you know what I’d be doing right now? I’d be looking into transition.

There is a very large Transgender community online. They do a very good job of luring in the vulnerable and lost. Their main agenda is to normalize dysphoria. Unfortunately, I found this community very engaging and started participating. It began with me watching a Transgender guy react to jokes I didn’t understand, to watching them explain what transgender was, to what transition entailed, after that it just snowballed. Soon, I was learning what exactly top surgery and hormone replacement therapy were. I was part of an online group specifically named something innocuous so that if a parent searched your phone but didn’t know what exactly they were looking for, they’d just skim past it. I went by a different name online that was more gender neutral, and I had more friends online than I had ever had in real life. But all of them were telling me they were right and my parents were wrong.

Looking back now, it’s honestly terrifying to see how close I was to losing the very good life I have now.

But, like most bad things, there is an upside. I understand how easy it is to feel like transition is the only option and why so many are pursuing it. There are no other offered solutions, and if you offer alternatives that go against their proposed solution, the transgender community will turn on you. If you think about it, that makes sense. This is their identity; they have this problem, and the solution they chose means they have mutilated their own body. Depending how far they went, there’s a very good chance they won’t ever be able to live normally as their biological sex. At the very least, changing your legal documents back is a hassle. So if someone is coming and saying they didn’t have to do any of that in the first place, it makes sense they’d feel defensive.

Dysphoria is a horrible thing to live with. It lies to you and tells you your body is wrong. That would be hard enough on its own, but it’s so much harder when there is this huge group of people telling you that you are right, feeding into the lie, and giving you every tool you need to do irreversible damage to yourself.

Your brain is an incredible thing and extremely plastic, but your body simply isn’t. Your sex is a part of you, down to your bones. In a century, people will be able to dig you up, and they will be able to know whether you were male or female. They won’t know anything else about you. Not what you liked, where you worked, what your name was, but they will know that.

The people who get guided to transition are just looking for hope, and the hope transgenderism offers is false. I firmly believe in the next few years, we will see a mass exodus from the trans community. We are going to see a lot of detransitioners, (that is, people who transitioned, in part or full, regret it and want to go back.), and it’s already started. I am a part of an online community for detransitioners that has 56 thousand members and I am also part of an offshoot group that has another thousand, both are constantly gaining new members. People are starting to speak up, speak up about how they were lied to by friends, Influencers, and by their doctors

Right now, transition is often presented as the only viable option for those struggling with dysphoria. While others may argue that it’s a deeply personal and challenging choice, the reality is that our media, culture, and medical systems frame it as the solution. That lack of options forces many down a single irreversible path.

So, we have teenagers who are being socially groomed down a path that is so supported, by society, their parents, and even their doctors that often no alternatives are presented, let alone considered. This leads to medical procedures occurring without informed consent and then later regret as there is no way to reverse the damage done.

It’s not their fault. They’ve been fed a lie, been funnelled into a failed experiment and then left to deal with the fallout. This is why we need to fight the idea of gender dysphoria being normalized and have compassion on those who have been caught up as a victim. This is a radical movement promising hope, that only doesn’t deliver, but instead brings only regret, suffering and irreversible consequences.

Thank You for listening

And that’s her speech. I hope you enjoyed it. If you have questions, comments, or anything else, you can post them below in the comment section at the bottom, or you can email me at [email protected] and I will relay any messages.