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We often think our spouse should just know better. We think they should just intuitively understand what we`re thinking, how we`re feeling, what we need and want from them. I mean, it`s so obvious and clear to us - why can`t they see it?
Because they`re not us, and they`re not mind-readers.
If you need something - say something. Then if that need doesn`t get met, then you can talk about it. But it`s not fair to get frustrated and disappointed about an unexpressed expectation.
Jun 6
We often think our spouse should just know better. We think they should just intuitively understand what we`re thinking, how we`re feeling, what we need and want from them. I mean, it`s so obvious and clear to us - why can`t they see it?
Because they`re not us, and they`re not mind-readers.
If you need something - say something. Then if that need doesn`t get met, then you can talk about it. But it`s not fair to get frustrated and disappointed about an unexpressed expectation.
Couple`s night is coming up again. Last month was awesome. If you`re thinking about becoming a supporter, now is a good time as $5/month gets you access to these as well as the forum.
www.uncoveringintimacy.com/donate
Jun 2
Couple`s night is coming up again. Last month was awesome. If you`re thinking about becoming a supporter, now is a good time as $5/month gets you access to these as well as the forum.
www.uncoveringintimacy.com/donate
New post/podcast is up!
Check it out at www.uncoveringintimacy.com
In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Women use sex to control men, so men should be allowed to masturbate
Appreciating beauty vs lusting
Playlist for sex
Tenuto
Squeamish about handjobs
Another question about masturbation
How do I get my wife to masturbate for me?
Is oral sex okay?
Are men polygamous by nature?
Jun 2
New post/podcast is up!
Check it out at www.uncoveringintimacy.com
In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:
Women use sex to control men, so men should be allowed to masturbate
Appreciating beauty vs lusting
Playlist for sex
Tenuto
Squeamish about handjobs
Another question about masturbation
How do I get my wife to masturbate for me?
Is oral sex okay?
Are men polygamous by nature?
It`s really easy to focus on problems. Our society does this all the time. It wants us to think about how we`re oppressed, how we`re marginalized, how others have privilege and we don`t. We do this in our relationships too. We focus on how did what wrong, whose fault is it, who didn`t apologize, who hasn`t changed, who is wronging us.
Let`s focus on solutions instead. There are countless incredible stories of people who have been horribly oppressed pulling themselves up by their boot-straps and becoming happy, successful, impactful and anything else you want. They focused on solutions instead of problems.
I`ve seen marriages with seemingly impossible obstacles to overcome end up turning around and doing marriage ministry. They chose to move past the problems and focus on solutions.
With my coaching clients, this is one of the criteria I have - we leave the past in the past. We can learn from it, but we`re not going to focus on it. We`re going to move forward and build a better relationship one day at a time. We`re going to focus on solutions, not living in past problems.
So, which will you do? Focus on solutions - build a better life for yourself and everyone around you. Or wallow in your problems and get nowhere - and it won`t be anyone`s fault but your own.
Jun 2
It`s really easy to focus on problems. Our society does this all the time. It wants us to think about how we`re oppressed, how we`re marginalized, how others have privilege and we don`t. We do this in our relationships too. We focus on how did what wrong, whose fault is it, who didn`t apologize, who hasn`t changed, who is wronging us.
Let`s focus on solutions instead. There are countless incredible stories of people who have been horribly oppressed pulling themselves up by their boot-straps and becoming happy, successful, impactful and anything else you want. They focused on solutions instead of problems.
I`ve seen marriages with seemingly impossible obstacles to overcome end up turning around and doing marriage ministry. They chose to move past the problems and focus on solutions.
With my coaching clients, this is one of the criteria I have - we leave the past in the past. We can learn from it, but we`re not going to focus on it. We`re going to move forward and build a better relationship one day at a time. We`re going to focus on solutions, not living in past problems.
So, which will you do? Focus on solutions - build a better life for yourself and everyone around you. Or wallow in your problems and get nowhere - and it won`t be anyone`s fault but your own.
A couple of weeks ago, I did a Bible study with some people to show that hell isn`t what we`ve been taught in most churches, and a biblical view of hell shows God`s love to everyone. Yes, there is judgement and destruction of the wicked, but not eternal torture.
Would you be interested in me taking my notes and turning it into a blog post/podcast? Because you`re interested, or because you want to disagree - either is fine by me.
May 31
A couple of weeks ago, I did a Bible study with some people to show that hell isn`t what we`ve been taught in most churches, and a biblical view of hell shows God`s love to everyone. Yes, there is judgement and destruction of the wicked, but not eternal torture.
Would you be interested in me taking my notes and turning it into a blog post/podcast? Because you`re interested, or because you want to disagree - either is fine by me.
"This is why I cheat."
"This is why I watch porn."
"This is why I masturbate."
"This is why I`m a workaholic."
"This is why I play video games."
"This is why I don`t help around the house."
I hear things like this all the time. Take responsibility for your own actions.
May 30
"This is why I cheat."
"This is why I watch porn."
"This is why I masturbate."
"This is why I`m a workaholic."
"This is why I play video games."
"This is why I don`t help around the house."
I hear things like this all the time. Take responsibility for your own actions.
One of my supporters who uses this free monthly coaching session told me I should tell more people about it. She absolutely loves it and thinks more people should know about it.
Find out more at uncoveringintimacy.com/donate
P.S. Some just use the calls to chat, and that`s fun too
May 26
One of my supporters who uses this free monthly coaching session told me I should tell more people about it. She absolutely loves it and thinks more people should know about it.
Find out more at uncoveringintimacy.com/donate
P.S. Some just use the calls to chat, and that`s fun too
Do we have issues in Canada? Yeah, absolutely. What country doesn`t? But I still love it here. The 10 statutory holidays we have doesn`t hurt either.
May 22
Do we have issues in Canada? Yeah, absolutely. What country doesn`t? But I still love it here. The 10 statutory holidays we have doesn`t hurt either.
It is good to seek wise counsel. It`s also good to ignore stupid opinions. Staying married isn`t a function of age. I think stubbornness is probably the best quality - if you simply refuse to give up, then you have no choice but to make it better.
May 19
It is good to seek wise counsel. It`s also good to ignore stupid opinions. Staying married isn`t a function of age. I think stubbornness is probably the best quality - if you simply refuse to give up, then you have no choice but to make it better.
Regardless of what you read on my blog, hear on my podcast, or learn from anywhere else - the best method is to talk to your spouse about what they like.
May 17
Regardless of what you read on my blog, hear on my podcast, or learn from anywhere else - the best method is to talk to your spouse about what they like.
If you`re feeling shy, feel free to DM me your answer.
Are you cultivating the fruit of the spirit in your life?
I see this in happen all the time in a variety of situations.
It might be a spouse getting angry at their husband or wife because of something they did - but underneath it`s because they`re afraid of what it means for the relationship.
I see it happen a lot in debates - when someone feels their position crumbling because the other person has just logically dismantled their argument, they`ll resort to angry insults.
I`ve even had pastors scream at me and tell me they can`t wait to see me in hell because I`d made a theological point they don`t like, but can`t refute, and it`s something that goes against what they`ve been preaching for decades.
It feels safer to be angry than scared, unsure, embarrassed or convicted.
Check your anger - it`s rarely the appropriate response.
May 12
I see this in happen all the time in a variety of situations.
It might be a spouse getting angry at their husband or wife because of something they did - but underneath it`s because they`re afraid of what it means for the relationship.
I see it happen a lot in debates - when someone feels their position crumbling because the other person has just logically dismantled their argument, they`ll resort to angry insults.
I`ve even had pastors scream at me and tell me they can`t wait to see me in hell because I`d made a theological point they don`t like, but can`t refute, and it`s something that goes against what they`ve been preaching for decades.
It feels safer to be angry than scared, unsure, embarrassed or convicted.
Check your anger - it`s rarely the appropriate response.
This guide actually came about because of a request of one of the wives taking our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course in our forum. We were talking about one of the challenges and one of them mentioned they struggled with orgasming too fast. One thing led to another, and I offered to write a "how to" guide for edging to help extend sex.
Then I asked on social media to see if people would be interested, and honestly was shocked to find out how interested people were!
So, here we are - it`s done. As with all our resources, this is far more informative than erotic - if you`re thinking "oh, this is going to be steamy" - it`s not. The information contained in it will make your sex life steamy though. That`s my goal.
So, if you want to grab a copy, head over to uncoveringintimacy.com/edging and you can use the coupon code EDGING for 25% off.
May 11
This guide actually came about because of a request of one of the wives taking our Becoming More Sexually Engaged course in our forum. We were talking about one of the challenges and one of them mentioned they struggled with orgasming too fast. One thing led to another, and I offered to write a "how to" guide for edging to help extend sex.
Then I asked on social media to see if people would be interested, and honestly was shocked to find out how interested people were!
So, here we are - it`s done. As with all our resources, this is far more informative than erotic - if you`re thinking "oh, this is going to be steamy" - it`s not. The information contained in it will make your sex life steamy though. That`s my goal.
So, if you want to grab a copy, head over to uncoveringintimacy.com/edging and you can use the coupon code EDGING for 25% off.
New podcast episode and blog post is up!
Trying some new things in this one - I`ve got different voices for the questions. Let me know what you think!
Show notes on our website at uncoveringintimacy.com
May 10
New podcast episode and blog post is up!
Trying some new things in this one - I`ve got different voices for the questions. Let me know what you think!
Show notes on our website at uncoveringintimacy.com
I`m trying out a new tool that Chris from @thelionwithin.us told me about. This is a clip from my last podcast (yes, a new one is coming soon) - what do you think? Should I post more of these? Do you like the short clips?
May 9
I`m trying out a new tool that Chris from @thelionwithin.us told me about. This is a clip from my last podcast (yes, a new one is coming soon) - what do you think? Should I post more of these? Do you like the short clips?