This week a very good friend of mine, sent me an email with the subject “Found a great blog”, and the body of the email was just a link to this blog and the words “What do you think?” In case…
Shame vs Embarrassment
Marriage
When do I give up hope?
A question that comes up often in my talks with spouses is “When do I give up hope?” After all, if divorce isn’t an option and you can’t make your spouse do anything, what are the chances that they’re just going…
Making New Years’ Resolutions Stick
Well, it’s that time of year again, when people start making resolutions. “This year’s going to be different” you say! But what are you doing to ensure it’s different. What makes you more likely to attain your resolutions this year?…
Why do I have to fix our marriage?
I think a lot of spouses have this question. Whether the relationship is lacking in quantity or quality of sex, communication skills, budgeting, or whatever. Typically there is one spouse that is more “high drive” in that area. They want…
Should my spouse choose my appearance?
I received a question on our Facebook Page a few days ago dealing with appearance and who should get to choose how you look, you or your spouse? Here’s the question: If you loved your wife’s looks exactly how she…
Words and Wisdom from Family
This month, the Christian Marriage Bloggers Association, of which I am a member, is hosting a challenge to bloggers. 4 topics to write about during the month of October. Unfortunately, I found out about it a little late, so I’m…
Work and school arrangements affect sex
So, this past week we ran a survey. Basically I was curious about how different working combinations in a marriage play out in terms of sexual frequency. Again, as always not that sex is the end all and be all…
Don’t accept sleeping on the couch
There is a common joke in married circles about “sleeping on the couch”. It typically refers to a husband being sent to go sleep on the couch, because he has done something to offend his wife and she has decided…
Covert contracts – expectations in marriage
In marriage many arguments and hurt feelings are based on expectations. These expectations can come from a variety of sources and can present in a variety of forms. Expectations aren’t necessarily bad, but unspoken expectations are dangerous, particularly when you…
Which gender needs to change in marriage?
My wife (her comments in purple) and I host a small group in our house, and we’re currently studying Intimacy Ignited with 4 other Christian couples. It’s been an interesting experience, talking so openly about sex in person with people who…
Book(let) Review: Creating True Agape
Cassie Celestain over at TrueAgape.com contacted me just over a week ago to ask if I could review her booklet. As is my policy, I never turn down the opportunity to read a resource that might help marriages, and if I think it…