How does breast or penis size affect sex?

Jay Dee

How does breast or penis size affect sex?

Aug 30, 2019

Curious about how breast and penis size affect sex according to our readers? Over 1100 of them responded to our survey. Here’s what they said.

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How does breast or penis size affect sex? Here's what over 1100 of our readers said.

Someone reminded me today that I completely forgot to post these results. So, sorry for the delay, but here they are! The analysis was actually done months ago, I just simply forgot to create a post. Thank you to all who filled out our survey on size, attractiveness and confidence.  We received over 1,100 responses!  Thank you also to everyone who left encouragement, praise and thanks in the comments for the survey.  I shared those with our supporters group as they help keep this ministry going, and they were very glad to read them.

Let’s get on with the data analysis though, shall we?

All told, we had 1127 participants.  

813 male (72%), 319 female (28%).  

This is fairly typical.  While our readership is split about 50/50, men seem to be more willing to participate in surveys.  Women are more likely to comment though, so it’s not like they’re shy.

The age split was pretty typical for our surveys.  We had responses from 18 year olds all the way to 84 year olds.

Breast size

For those who don’t know, bras are measured by 2 figures: band size and cup size.  I asked both men and women what they thought the average sizes were for both, and then the women what theirs were to get a representative average from our responses.

The perceived average bra size from the men’s perspective was 35, from the women, 36.  Of course, that wasn’t quite a fair question, as the women’s average as measured was 36, so they have first-hand knowledge.  Still, I think the men did pretty well considering they were only off by one.

As for cup size, 65% of the women said the average was a C cup (compared to 52% of the men), and 19% said a B cup (compared to 38% of the men).  Again, the women had this one as the average seems to be a C cup, or maybe halfway between C and D.  In fact, 25% of the women said they were C, 18% said they were B, 20% said D and 16% said DD.  

For the distributions, I offer these charts:

Breast Augmentation

I also asked the question “Have you considered breast augmentation or reduction surgery?”

Here are what the wives said:

  • 54% had no interest
  • 15% said they’d considered it
  • 9% said they were curious
  • 9% said they’d seriously considered it
  • 5% said they’d had augmentation surgery / implants
  • 4% said they’d had elective surgery to reduce theirs
  • 3% said they didn’t believe Christians should do that
  • 1% said they’d had their reduced due to a mastectomy or something similar

I was curious if cup size made any impact on this.  It does, but nothing really surprising. Here are the answers by sentiment. If you need help reading this, each column ads up to 100%. So, of those who had implants, 31% have a C cup, 25% a D, 38% DD and 6% F.

And by cup size. So, this one is organized by rows. So, for those who have DD cup sized breasts, 4% don’t believe Christians should have surgery for this. 10% have had a breast reduction, 12% have had implants an some other augmentation, 6% have considered surgery, 8% are curious about it, 16% have considered it and 43% have no interest.

I blacked out the zeros just to make it a bit easier to read and the colours simply help highlight outliers in the data.  In the first chart, the percentages are by column, in the second by row, because I couldn’t decide which to pick.

For those who prefer words to numbers, those with C cups had the least interest in changing.  Likely because they’re considered “average”.  But, that doesn’t mean they aren’t curious, considering or seriously considering it.

As well there were a ton of comments ranging from “No serious-minded christian should ever consider such” to “The only thing that keeps me from getting implants is the cost”.  But there is this one I wanted to share:

My feelings about plastic surgery are conflicted. While it seems very disrespectful to our Heavenly Father to want to change one’s physical appearance, I completely understand how one’s self esteem and confidence can be changed positively. My breasts became grotesquely pendulous after breastfeeding babies, which happens to many women. I dreamed of having breast reduction surgery. My breasts caused back pain. I never could find a correctly fitting bra. The bra straps cut into my shoulders and hurt. And you don’t know pain until you’ve been impaled by the wire of an underwire bra! Then comes a diagnosis of very aggressive breast cancer. Because of cancer insurance paid for both my mastectomy, reconstruction of the amputated breast with an implant, and “surgery for symmetry” which allowed for breast reduction of the other breast.

There’s no place to put this, but I’d like to explain why I would like my breasts to be a little larger. My plastic surgeon never asked me what cup size I hoped to be after surgery. He made me a B cup, but I’m a big gal. I’ve enjoyed not having all that weight on my chest, but I think a C cup would be more flattering. So I’ve been working on losing weight so the new breasts won’t seem so small. Now, naked I like my breasts. The surgeon did an excellent job making new breasts for me. But he and I should have discussed size.

I just wanted to share it to point out that it’s a complicated issue.

Lastly, when we asked the husbands about their feelings towards their wife’s cup size, here’s how they answered:

Feelings about breast size

Continuing on, about half the wives have no interest in changing.

44% of the wives actually said they like their breasts just the way they are.  
35% said they’d like them to be a bit larger and 2% said much larger.  
15% said they’d like them to be a bit smaller and 4% said much smaller.

When asking what they thought their husbands think about their breasts:

43% said their husband likes them just the way they are, and 41% said their husband would be happy with whatever they had.  
14% said they think their husbands would like them larger, and 2% said their husbands would like them smaller.

When we asked what their husbands thought, 95% of them said their husbands actually said they liked them the way they are.

Yet, only 69% of women said they felt confident about their breast size.  22% said they weren’t confident, and 9% said they weren’t sure, which doesn’t sound very confident.

So, to recap:

  • 95% of the wives say their husbands actually said they like them the way they are
  • 84% of wives actually believe their husbands when they say that
  • only 69% of wives actually feel confident about their breast size

When we asked the men about their wife’s breasts, 75% of them said they like them the way they are, which I’m a little surprised at considering 95% of the wives said their husbands were happy with what they had. I think perhaps the gap is due to some husbands being perfectly fine with what their wife has … but if they magically changed somehow, that’s an appealing idea for them.  19% said they wished they were larger, and 5% said they wished they were smaller.

For those upset over the 19%, of them, about ⅓ of those said their wives had either mentioned being curious, considered or seriously considering it, or have had a mastectomy.  As well, 58% of those husbands said they think their wife wishes they were larger too.  Now, it could be the wife is wishing they were larger because the husband does, or perhaps the husband wishes they were larger because he knows the wife would prefer it.  Hard to say.

Remember how I said 69% of women were confident about their breasts?  Turns out the husbands are paying attention, because 67% of them said their wife felt confident about her breasts.  Yay!  I love it when stats line up like that. I mean a 2% variance isn’t bad. It is sad that one in three wives doesn’t feel confident about her breast though.

When we ask husbands and wives how their breast size affects sex, the most common response is: confidence.  When wives feel a lack of confidence about their breasts, it makes them more inhibited.  It’s that feeling about their own breasts that negatively impact sex more than whether or not their husband actually likes the breasts, which to re-iterate: most do.

Penis size

Moving on to the men.

We asked about penis size in terms of length and width while erect.  Now, some people pointed out that I didn’t give proper measuring guidelines, but it’s my guess that by and large, most people measured the same way.

42% of the women and 62% of the men accurately guessed that the average penis length was between 5 and 6”. As for girth, both men and women’s guesses averaged at 2-3”, though the men tended to guess towards thicker.  

For distributions of guesses, again, here are the charts:

I also asked about curve.  As you can see below, the largest group is simply “straight” followed by a slight upward curve and then a slight curve to the left for some reason.

When we asked if the curve affects sexual enjoyment, 79% of the wives said “no”, and 21% of the wives said “yes”.  However, going through the comments, that “yes” could be either in a positive way or a negative way, so it wasn’t a terribly effective question.

Feelings about penis size

When we asked the wives “How do you feel about your husband’s penis length?”:

  • 80% said “I like the length it is”
  • 16% said “I wish it was longer”
  • 3% said “I wish it was shorter”

Of course, the next question is “well, at what size do they want it longer”?

Note: the wives are pretty happy with “average”.

When we asked the men about their feelings about their own length:

  • 50% said they like the size it is
  • 49% said they wish it was longer
  • Less than 1% said they wish theirs was shorter

Note: Even at the average (5-6”), the majority (55%) of men want more.

On to girth. When we asked the wives:

  • 76% said they like it the way it is.
  • 21% said they wish it was thicker
  • 3% said they wish it was thinner

Seems there may some truth to women preferring girth over length.  Still, most are happy with what their husband has.  Here are the numbers by thickness:

When asking the men the same question about themselves:

  • 52% said they like the thickness as it is
  • 47% said they wish it was thicker
  • 1% said they wish it was thinner

So, how does this affect confidence?  Well, 70% of the men said they felt confident about their size, 17% said they didn’t, and 12% said they weren’t sure.

Funny, that’s surprisingly close to what the women said about breast size, which shouldn’t be surprising, because when we asked the husbands what the wives say about their size, 88% said they said they were happy with it just the way it was, which is pretty close to what the wives answered their husbands said about breast size.

Now, when we ask the wives if their husband is confident about his penis size, 82% said “yes” and 18% said “no”.  I guess the guys are better at faking bravado, because, remember, only about 50% seem to be happy with what they have.

Singles

Lastly, we asked some questions of our single readers as well.  It’s not a huge percentage of our readers.  About 3% are divorced, 3% engaged and 3% single.

We asked the women if they worried what their future husband might think of their breast size.  79% said “no”.  21% said “yes”.

We also asked the women if they were worried about their future husband’s penis size.  64% said no.  21% said they were worried it would be too big.  16% said they were worried it would be too small.

On the men’s side, 50% were worried about what their future wife might think of their penis size.  Apparently, I forgot to ask if they were worried about their future wife’s breast size.  Or perhaps I just figured because you can gauge size without getting naked, it’s less of a surprise.

Conclusion

How does breast or penis size affect sex? According to over 1100 of our readers, confidence about your own body, regardless of what it looks like, counts for way more than the actual measurements.

What I found interesting during this survey was all the comments that said something to the affect of “I like my spouse just the way they are”, and how many wished they could change their own body because they were afraid their spouse didn’t like how they were.

Also, most of the answers to “does this affect your/their sexual enjoyment” said something about it affects their confidence and thus inhibits them.

In other words, I think we lose a lot of sexual energy, confidence and assertiveness worrying that our spouse doesn’t find us attractive, and ultimately I think it’s that lack of confidence that ends up hurting our attractiveness more than our actual physical features, both for husbands and wives.


That’s it for this survey.  If you’d like to see another survey in the future, comment below to let me know what topic you’d like to see explored, email me at jay@uncoveringintimacy.com or visit our Have A Question page to submit it anonymously.

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